what to do with a childish husband?

anurajiv · Jan 5, 2010

hello.my husband is a highly paid govt official.i must say the truth.he is smart,a honest and responsible man,does all his duties with dedication ,got a lot of friends and a very admired professional also...i will give him the best rating as a husband.we have got a 2 yr old son also.
but one thing worries me ----a strange habit of my husband.he likes to play with small children including our son .after he returns from office a bunch of kiddies visit our house to play with their beloved Rajiv uncle.in their company he forgets every thing,every thing that he is a govt official,is an adult,got a high social status.he just engage in kiddish games with them.in evenings i can see my 6 feet tall,well built hubby running in the backyard with his kiddy company playing hide and seeks and chasing butter flies.after the sun sets,the kids go back and he returns to his normal life.i told him to stop it...many times.he will agree with me and next day forgets.i also told the kids to play with my child and not with my husband.but they are kids and u know .when i told this to his parents they told that he loves small children.
is this a mental disorder.is it treatable?

Priya16 · Jan 5, 2010

anurajiv,

Your post really makes me laugh.Why do you think he has some disorder.Each person will enjoy doing something.May be he is finidng happiness while playing kids.As a mother you should happy that you
husband playing well with your son.

Running,playing and everything good for mond and body.So why do you want to stop him.

Even I know some men in our friends circle really like to play with kids.Let them be.I don't see any problem with your husband behaviour.

vimala1957 · Jan 5, 2010

anurajiv said: ↑

hello.my husband is a highly paid govt official.i must say the truth.he is smart,a honest and responsible man,does all his duties with dedication ,got a lot of friends and a very admired professional also...i will give him the best rating as a husband.we have got a 2 yr old son also.
but one thing worries me ----a strange habit of my husband.he likes to play with small children including our son .after he returns from office a bunch of kiddies visit our house to play with their beloved Rajiv uncle.in their company he forgets every thing,every thing that he is a govt official,is an adult,got a high social status.he just engage in kiddish games with them.in evenings i can see my 6 feet tall,well built hubby running in the backyard with his kiddy company playing hide and seeks and chasing butter flies.after the sun sets,the kids go back and he returns to his normal life.i told him to stop it...many times.he will agree with me and next day forgets.i also told the kids to play with my child and not with my husband.but they are kids and u know .when i told this to his parents they told that he loves small children.
is this a mental disorder.is it treatable?
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Hey Anu,

I don't think you must worry. Other than playing with the kids, he is normal, so nothing to worry, he may find it relaxing to play with the kids for sometime after a hectic day at work. If anything else you see is abnormal, it is different. As such, from what you have mentioned, it seems just fine.

So be happy.

love

SriVidya75 · Jan 5, 2010

Anu

You should consider yourself one blessed human being...why?? because most men when they come from work, want to relax and still want their wife to baby them around...your husband is giving you time to relax and this is his way of relaxing..i.e playing with kids and having good time...sometimes its easy to get along with innocence i.e kids...rather than with grownups as there is so much tension and politics involved

so chill and dont worry on this front...look at it that he is blessed too, because other kids also like him and his company....

asuitablegirl · Jan 6, 2010

Looks like your hubby is a child at heart. Awww, sweet.

I think you are lucky. So many men come home from work and unwind by smoking, drinking, or crashing in front of the computer for hours... leaving wife and kids alone.

Instead your husband is relaxing by spending time with his son and the other kids 'chasing butterflies'. Believe me Anurajiv, you are truely blessed. In fact many ladies here are probably reading this thinking YOU'RE the crazy one to complain about your dh's good behavior! Relax. Maybe it'd even do you some good to join in those 'kiddish games' and have some fun. :thumbsup

kavya007 · Jan 6, 2010

"Enjoying the company of small children" a mental disorder !!!! Come on..what next. Children are so full of life and they live completely in the present moment. Its such a joy to play with them and watch them play. What is so below your "social status" and dignity to play with small children. Your husband is destressing in a natural way instead of hooking constantly on the laptop or TV.

Kavya.

anurajiv said: ↑

hello.my husband is a highly paid govt official.i must say the truth.he is smart,a honest and responsible man,does all his duties with dedication ,got a lot of friends and a very admired professional also...i will give him the best rating as a husband.we have got a 2 yr old son also.
but one thing worries me ----a strange habit of my husband.he likes to play with small children including our son .after he returns from office a bunch of kiddies visit our house to play with their beloved Rajiv uncle.in their company he forgets every thing,every thing that he is a govt official,is an adult,got a high social status.he just engage in kiddish games with them.in evenings i can see my 6 feet tall,well built hubby running in the backyard with his kiddy company playing hide and seeks and chasing butter flies.after the sun sets,the kids go back and he returns to his normal life.i told him to stop it...many times.he will agree with me and next day forgets.i also told the kids to play with my child and not with my husband.but they are kids and u know .when i told this to his parents they told that he loves small children.
is this a mental disorder.is it treatable?
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radsahana · Jan 6, 2010

hey

i know what problem you have. you must be feeling your dh, is not spending time with you, rather he play with kids.

your dh is perfectly normal, like all ohter ilites said, this is his way of rewinding. all person needs some sort of rewinding, some wathc tv, some do crosswords, some browse internet etc..........

you can ask him to play with kids on alternate days, and Ask him to take you out for walk or drive or shopping alternte days. i am sure he will udnerstand you.

swaram · Jan 6, 2010

Hi,

My husband loves playing with all neighborhood kids and sometimes he gets invited to kids birthday parties. Thats his nature. If it bothers you a lot, then like how we do with our kids where we restrict our kids playtime and call them inside when it is time, try doing to same with him. That way he does what he enjoys and then you get to spend sufficient time with him too.

Swaram

sunitha · Jan 6, 2010

Anu,what is your real problem here? Is it that he plays with kids or is it that it is affecting your social status.This is the first time I am hearing something like this,that playing with kids affects social status!!

There is nothing wrong with your husband...looks like your are feeling left out.Why not jump in and join in the fun!!:thumbsup

arthidiva · Jan 6, 2010

hey Anu, this is so normal... how do you think this is some sort of mental disorder?? A person needs to have a heart to play with such small children.. wow it is YOUR hubby being a nice person.. whats the harm in playing for an hour or two.. I have seen one of my neighbours returning from his work and play with all children in our apartments.. be it shuttle with 6 - 12 yr olds, be it just running around with 2 - 4 yrs old, playing hide and seek with some children, what not?? I have even seen him running behind tiny bicycles to support the LOs.. not just his own kids but all kids. His wife happily says he feels young when around small children.. Yes, you say that he returns to his normal life after the playtime.. so whats your problem?? Be happy abt this. This will happen for say another 3 or 5 yrs max until your kid has his own playgroup.. may be this is his way of workign out! or energising! common anu, let him enjoy!