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Why Is Everyone Happy & I Am Not

Discussion in 'Interesting Shares' started by MSree, Aug 30, 2019.

  1. MSree

    MSree Bronze IL'ite

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    Sharing a forward message.

    Why is everyone happy and I am not?

    A newly married couple posted some beautiful pictures from their honeymoon.

    *Aman, their unmarried friend, felt envy and sad looking at his own fate.*

    He was getting over age but couldn't find a partner made him even more frustrated.

    Next month Aman posted a picture standing next to his brand new Black colored SUV.

    He was giving a curl to his moustaches, which added to the elegance of the picture.

    *The newly married couple who posted their honeymoon picture a month back, were suffering from financial crisis, they couldn't even buy a basic car to start their married life.*

    Looking at Aman's picture with an expensive SUV, their heart sank deep.

    *After a week, one of their common couple friend posted a picture of their new flat.*

    They were going through a rough patch in marriage.

    They were breathing less and fighting more.

    Parents had also been involved in their disputes several times.

    Life was like a hell for both of them.

    But still they got the delivery of their booked flat and also had to post a picture, to seek some satisfaction in the otherwise hollow life.

    Seeing their pictures, Aman who purchased a car only to overcome his insecurities of not being able to buy a house, and not being married, broke down.

    *The newly married couple, seeing this picture, lost all excitement of marriage life and felt as if they were the most miserable and poor people in the entire society.*

    They started fighting over petty issues.

    A few other friends who were single and financially humble went in depression looking all the three pics.

    Answering this question-

    *How do you exactly know that everyone is happy in their lives?*

    Seeing pout pictures on social media?

    By meeting someone for minutes?

    Professional achievements?

    *Laughing & smiling faces?*

    New house or vehicles?

    Relationship status?

    *Airport check-ins?*

    Self-bragging?

    Good looks?

    Wrong!

    If you judge this way, this is how you will emotionally go down in life.

    *Life is like a deep Ocean, and you can't judge others people's life by standing on the top of a cliff and simply looking down.*

    Try and jump inside and touch the bottom of any individual's life to see how happy they are.

    Or don't judge!

    *Every individual has a few reasons to be happy and some to be sad.*

    Instead of peeping in other people's lives, appreciate the reasons you have to be happy.

    God knows when they may leave you.
     
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  2. Vedhavalli

    Vedhavalli Gold IL'ite

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    Wonderfully written. So true.....
    Thanks for sharing
    Adding more
    *A couple posing on thier kid's first day of school....in social media
    ** In reality the kid's school fees and donation is in laks, they couple can't find a nice day care with both parents working, the the mom has more anxiety than child thinking to cope with day care, early morning school, office, home and financial burden. But outsiders think they are happy they have house, car, kid, kid got best school's seat... In reality everyone is struggling....

    **New bride in H4 visa posting pics from Niagara, New York skyline , statue of liberty...
    Her friends back home sighs who live within vicinity of friends and family, have best food, from maid to aid at door step. Attend family functions and weddings. They think people in overseas are happy. Reality is different.
    H4 friend sighs when she can't the best friend's wedding or cousin's weddings... working on Diwali. No one to call best friends because of constantly moving...so on.
     
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    messedup Platinum IL'ite

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    Very true. I too had felt like that many times and later found the deep reality which is totally different. Life gives us moments to be happy and sad or can say its our view how do we look at those moments. Nothing is permanent.
     
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    Thyagarajan IL Hall of Fame

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    :hello:How do we look at those moments ?
    Well Said. Hence underscored .

    2. That’s what Eventually determines quantum of happiness or sadness in one.
    3. Monks & saints emphasise that balanced state of mind occurs when one practices to remain un- elated when happiness around and not to sorrow when sadness befall. Difficult to practice for ordinary folk.
    I can’t agree more with @Vedhavalli & @MSree
    HAPPINESS IS STATE OF MIND. HAPPINESS IS NOT PURCHASED. IT IS NOT A COMMODITY. ONE CAN NOT BUY HAPPINESS. RICH ARE POOR BY HAPPINESS ACCOUNT. SEE MR Ambani Anil. He is overnight became NIL. hence he is A Nil.
    Thanks and Regards.
     
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    kcb IL Hall of Fame

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    No one is 100% happy in their life. It's always good to count our blessings and be happy for whatever we have.
     
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    Rihana Finest Post Winner

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    Adding more:

    ** From FB recipe groups
    "I came home super tired, child not well, husband coming home even later than me. Started this simple recipe <which has at least 6 ingredients, and needs one pre-made paste>, made soup for child, put chai on, blah blah... "Recipe" saved the day. <Posting picture of dish on neat table or kitchen counter, and two cups of chai ready as husband comes home>"
    Reality is that the super-patient saint like woman and her husband who seem to have their act figured out, actually have regular fights at home and in the grocery store within earshot of others about everything.

    True.

    Don't judge others for their real or perceived happiness or their real or perceived struggles.
     
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    radv Gold IL'ite

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    The fact is kabhi kisi ko mukmul jahan nahi milta (nobody gets perfect world).
    Sooner we realize this happier we are.
    So yes its always good to count the blessings.
     
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    Thyagarajan IL Hall of Fame

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    :hello:I agree. Distance lends enchantment to the view.
    2. The world is gripped in Maya & everybody thinks that others are more happy, enjoying life to the hilt. Everywhere it is depth and distribution of illusory life.
    Thanks and Regards.
    God - when the world can have Your gracious glances that would confer boons on humanity!
     
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    :hello:Interesting and unexpected free entertainment in public happens in plazas, arcades and malls and in weddings. But I prefer to avoid and distance Myself. Sometime it turn out to be a ploy!

    2. When I happen to stay in flat in Bombay for sometime, I observed that the middle aged couple would often turn belligerent especially when they have guests. But then I found that was the trick to discourage some of their undesirable guests to extend their stay long and or never to turn up again.

    3. Inebriated Husband and wife quarrelled in public. Soon they were encircled by onlookers. Later the couple under a deep shade tree sat smiling at each other with their appendage accounted the pick pocketed purses, wallets and cash from the onlookers while some men and women at a distance felt miserable looking for what they had lost.

    Life is like that.

    Thanks and Regards.
    God helps the nimble brain than mighty brawn.
     
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    Needtobestrong Gold IL'ite

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    Nice forward..many times I envied the happiness of other married couples when they posted Romantic pics on social media...it took me many years to understand that everything is not what it appears to be...this early who look glamorous, glowing and happy on Facebook and instagram pics maybe really miserable and unhappy in real life...
     
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