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Why divorce rate is increasing in India day by day?

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Pranjjal, Jan 24, 2012.

  1. Pranjjal

    Pranjjal Gold IL'ite

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    Hello Ladies and Gentlemen here!
    Let us shed some light on this topic. What are the reasons that marriages are not working? What are the causes of unsuccessful marriages and how to try to overcome it? What changes one should bring in them(men and women both) to lead better married life? What things affects married life and how everyone can work on it? What are the roles of parents in their children's marriages? Why husbands/wives facing in law's issues?
    We should discuss these things so that it will help to understand both men and women workout on good things to lead happy married life.
    Everyone agrees that we need a companion as we travel down life's road Who should this companion be? There is a need to find someone whom we can trust and spend time with and talk to and confide in and relax with and share those things that are on our hearts.Most people give very careful thought and consideration as to who their life companion should be but does it works? or some they don't pay much attention on this and then get into trouble? How to choose right companion? Lets discuss this openly what women/men wants from their life partners. By understanding each others perspective here one will start to think Oh! What I should really do to make my marriage successful.

    Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident, and more and more successful.
    So Lets start ........Be willing to be a beginner every single morning.
     
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  2. parvathi1980

    parvathi1980 Platinum IL'ite

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    One of the main reasons is that women are no longer the submissive wives they used to be. Plenty of women are not willing to take crap from inlaws nd spouses. Men on the other hand are living in another world...they want their wives to earn like Ambani, look like Aishwarya, sing like Lata, Dance like madhuri to the tunes of mil and sil, treat patidev like devtas etc.
     
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  3. Aspire

    Aspire Gold IL'ite

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    I would believe the below,

    1. Tolerance level is low and partners are not ready to work hard to keep marriage as before.

    2. Stress of modern life: Today’s working environment has changed drastically. The economy having opened up, most companies are facing intense competition and this leads to tremendous pressure on employees. Working late, 6 days a week, without holidays and with a boss who breathes down your throat can create a lot of frustration and tension. This can destroy a marriage, whether it’s just one partner working, or both.

    3. Immature expectations from partners and their view about marriage

    4. Other compatilibility issues
     
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    sheztheone Platinum IL'ite

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    Good one, Parvathi!
     
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  5. Tugga

    Tugga Silver IL'ite

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    He he...Very true!!!
     
  6. bhuvnidhi

    bhuvnidhi IL Hall of Fame

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    :rotfl:rotfl:rotflVery well said,Parvathi!

    I would like to add that even the tolerance limit of individual has gone for a toss.
     
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    Shanvy IL Hall of Fame

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    Pranjal,

    The rate of divorce has double/trebled from 2000. it is said there were only 2 courts for divorce cases in new delhi while today it has crossed 18 i think.

    just out of the topic i would like to share this survey or newsbit i read here, this morning and i was like thinking what is happening to us,indians are we becoming more open ...well that is for another discussion..
    Would you marry someone who was not a virgin? - Yahoo! Lifestyle India

    coming back to the topic.

    i believe, women empowerment has removed the stigma and fear to suffer in silence while many may say it is the empowerment that has been direct influence in the increase.

    acceptance of a divorcee has come a long way. no wonder a businessman is cashing in on this segment with the secondshaadi site.

    I agree with Aspire, tolerance has come down so has patience. we are a impatient bunch. i always make fun...there are people who want a baby the moment they come around the peepal tree (there is saying that if you want a child, you pray around the peepal tree). we want instant results for everything. the moment things don't go our way we want to separate..(well we do have people who have tried for years to gether before they say enough is enough)

    Men have become progressive, in the sense they are ok if their wife goes out to work and brings more moolah home, but they also want her to be the cook, mother everything ...inshort the expectation that woman should be superwoman takes a task on lot of women who have not mastered the art of balancing life, work and marriage.

    Reality surfaces once the honeymoon period ends. both are in a hurry, first flush of love, that they miss all those red flags that were flashing..

    Parental pressure. i personally know a case where the girl married due her parents pressure and walked out and filed a annulment and married her bf....in chennai..

    issues like emotional abuse, impotency, physical abuse also are other major
    factors today.
     
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    saraswathilives Bronze IL'ite

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    Hi,

    I would like to give my personal views to this thread ...

    I would say individual tolerance level has gone down and expectations are unreasonable these days ....

    As some one said what a guy looks for in his wife ... same applies to the girl also ....

    The guy should be well settled, earn more than her, well educated and so on ... not to mention the in law issues for both sides .... yes in law issues are on both sides these days .... it happened in my friend's case .... her MIL is a bed ridden patient ... and her DH is the only son ... knowing this she got married ... arranged marriage .... she's also only daughter ... her parents are dependent on her financially ... they were staying seperate ... now she has brought her inlaws and parents under the same roof ....

    I dont mean to say this is wrong .... but we girls who are expecting a nuclear family .... is it fair for us to live with our parents .... and in this case ... her parents are healthy and they were staying seperate without any issues ... now everybody is under one roof with cold war going on .... is this really needed ???

    Guys or girls once we lower our expectations to a reasonable level and take life as it comes .... marriage will become easy ... and we can claim equality only when we are ready to take entire family responsibilities as guys do ... keep working through out life ... be the main bread winner i/o supporting the main bread winner ... otherwise it would be like comparing apples to oranges .... JMO
     
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    I dont remember the date, but I remember the content of a very nice article that says 72% of Indian men are momma's boys and they completely rely on their parents when it comes to their personal/marital decisions. 21% of them listen to both sides and acts accordingly and only 7% of Indian men behaves like real men with individual thinking with a perfect analytic power.

    Secondly its the interference of in laws... Momma's boys are the easy targets for manipulation, hence the in laws interfere in family decisions.

    The independence of women in India... Those submissive women will listen and accept whatever the crap is done by the in laws or husbands, but those who think that they can lead a happy life without such monsters, will surely go for separation.

    It takes two to tango, but in India it is always we women who struggle to make their marriage work...
     
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    Very much true!!! Well said!!!
     

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