I have heard about the forums here from one of my friend. She enjoys reading the posts and articles here. I have come here for help. I'm in US now for 4 plus years. Husband, Daughter and I live in Apartments. We have a good community here and some of our neighbors are my husband's colleagues and boss. When I moved here few years ago, I made friends with the ladies here and was included in their groups like Potlucks\Performing for association programs\Watsapp groups etc. Almost the majority of the ladies here are older than me and we are from diverse cultural backgrounds. I have faced disagreements from the group which I consider healthy. It was nothing harmful at all and was taken positively mostly. I mostly maintain a good amount interaction not too less or not too much. After a year in US, I did my masters and started getting swamped with my coursework and family duties. My social presence became less than before but I felt it is unavoidable. I felt some of the ladies started distancing from me saying I'm unavailable and not respecting their messages in watsapp groups. I did make effort to attend gathering whenever possible and contribute. It was also a good outlet for me. But I did get some criticisms which I sometimes asked straightaway and tried to cool things down. i felt it was al good. Last year I graduated and was in the job search phase then. I got a full time gig couple of months back and find myself totally lonely now. Not getting called for gatherings hosted by some. some are still friendly and all. but In short, I feel excluded. Messages in the groups ignored. Asking about my progress/work/salary to my husband through their husband. I did ask one person who is next door. She said she is upset with me because I'm not mingling with others. I did find her replies unreasonable and weak. Did something like this happen to any of you? How did you tackle?