@Shanvy as mentioned by another member here. We aren't generalising all men here. Every men r unique jus as v ladies r. I have wonderful men in my life too, husband, son, brothers, father, father in law, uncles, grandpas, friends.. I love n respect them more than anythng. This post is in no way to degrade a specific gender. That is jus wrong. The point here is, it's a 'ladies' forum, v come here to vent, ask for help, discuss, basically for the ladies lookin for something more or different from der everyday lives. N Yes, u r absolutely rite abt us being responsible of our own safety. Not jus here, everywer else too. A member posts her problem n a guy is blaming her n being obscene. Posts addressed to ladies attracts attention from guys. A guy says he din know der was a 'precondition' to make friends here bcoz I didn't wanted to talk once I found it's a guy, in a 'ladies' forum. Really? I absolutely understand dat it is hard for the admins to manage such a huge volume. That was d whole reason for this post, for others to share similar experiences, helps from d admins, n advises/ suggestions from helpful members in the group like u. How do we protect us from these over-interested men dat r abusing / advising the ladies in a ladies forum?