Never knew this condition before. I thought it is just my in laws, who are demanding such a spineless thing from parents. It seems, it is a norm in India. Ya, well... my in laws are also from India. (Now I can excuse them for this). If your father has to spend for your marriage, and then for the delivery, and then for each and every rituals concerning to you or the baby etc..etc... at his old age, then who will want a baby girl in India? It is rather a fair decision on parents to want only boy child, and even a clever decision on the villagers to do female infanticide. Because, having a girl child is too costly, and it makes you pay as lumpsum and in installments throughout your life. Contrastingly, having a son gives you supper power to demand anything on a girl or her parents shamelessly, and it is considered superiority with pride. What is this logic???? When my delivered my first kid, my in laws demanded the same. Husband acted as a puppet to their demands. But I never let my mom or bro pay a penny to the hospital. Sadly, during delivery times both my credit card and ATM cards were left with husband. So, I couldn't pay myself either. However, I was great full that some of my jewels, including the ones they gifted me during the wedding remained in my locker, which helped the hospital bills and early recovery expenses. The more husband refused to pay, the more I refused to show them the tiny newborn. It has created a huge drama, which made us almost into separation. But, it also left a note behind. i.e, I won't accept any custom just because it is a custom. They got it right. The second time around, husband made a special saving to welcome the tiny girl. Although I was working, and my money could have spent on the hospital bills (after all, we have insurance and the amount will be reimbursed), I wished my husband to take the lead. It also helped me to heal from the previous scar he created following his parents. My mom and bro still spend on my kids. But we consider them as gifts and savings. When it comes to our expenses, it should be done by us. Not by our well wishers and outsiders.