I have been married for 6 years now. From the very first day of my marriage till today, my relation with DH family is not that great. My MIL is the matriarch of the family, Sil and her family lives nearby. We both stay away in Mumbai due to DH's work. We visit our hometown every month and spend time with our respective families. Every time, I have to make my way through and visit my place as my Mil dislikes my proximity with my dad and brother but to her dismay I do not listen to everything that she says, I never fight with her but every time when there's difference of opinion I put across my point of view and let her know. She is a strong lady who brought up her kids well but the problem is she is too possessive. So, according to her I don't belong to my maternal home anymore as I have become the property of her house. However, whether it's buying/selling home, conducting Pooja, inviting relatives and friends for family functions or attending such activities, repairs/alterations and everything else she does those only after consulting her daughter and son in law. She conveniently forgets me. She also puts my DH in fix as she indirectly tells him that 'your wife should ask if she wants to be part of it'. when I go ahead and ask she says ' I will have to discuss it with my son in law, I will let you know'. Funny thing is, my DH sponsors everything in the family. He is forbidden from making his sister spend on anything (even for her own family) and he also likes it as he feels his sis is making a great sacrifice by taking care of his mom (mil is 54 and in good shape). So when it comes to my family, my work or anything related to me - I belong to their household and hence, I have to obey them but when it comes to their family and everything I am nowhere in the picture. Even though, we both live away, our house is not considered 'home' (by DH & Mil). I cannot fight with my mil and say 'you keep your daughter away' because my mil & DH love my Sil a lot. They don't do anything without her consent (I am expected to stay silent and let them do what they want, my suggestions are neither asked nor heard) and my DH doesn't believe in doing anything without telling those two. So when the two ladies get involved I get side tracked. SIL is treated as 'Lakshmi' and she is never told a 'no' to anything she asks, same with her daughter as well. So a thought passed my mind: where do we belong? By 'we' I mean, we; women. We leave our house and come to a new family but under such situations where daughters are considered important than the daughter in laws where do we belong? What do you all think?