What to do if hubby is mama's boy?

My hubby is totally mamma's boy . He and Bil can do anything on her command . Its now ruining my personnel space in marriage . Before i though BIL used to tell everything to her on phone but now i guess my Hubby might also be. He even tell her our personnel talk and sex life . But he expect me not to discuss anything with my family .

He will only care about his brother , mother and father. Recently mil asked him to send some salary to her sister because she is ill . So from now on he will send some amount of salary to her each month. I actually have no problem with this because she is old but i am pissed because he just agreed and sent to her without even discussing with me and later just told me as a talk. If anything like this i did to my family he would have shouted so much that i dont consult her before .He even controlled me when i was looking for my job. He want me to first ask him everything even ... ask him before stepping out of house. I am not sure if he care about me or totally control me.

My hubby is very angry person infact sometime i think he got split personality. When he is happy with me he will treat me like his kid or baby . And if he is angry he will treat me like i am his biggest enemy . He will shout at me . But still expect me to talk nicely to him . He will fight again if i dont switch on my mood instantly and smile at him with same love.
I mean when the fight is over i should be back in same good mood. He got this all from his parents. They exactly same like him but more expert.

They are so bitchy , that i cant handle. I cannot ignore them because they will complain to my hubby i dont speak to them . I cannot even speak to them because they pickup small small sentences and make a issue of it. Mil will even redicule me many time "what i am talking". I cannot even argue with them because it willl be like putting your hands in fire.

During their first visit , they used to put my hubby against me telling him how i am just sitting at home doing nothing , not even working as my hubby wanted a working woman. I dont even give him physical pleasure( yes they even discuss this) , how i am not ideal wife. And then my hubby would change his reaction toward me. They try this today also , to create fight between us.

Mil would lie to him ( she is the biggest liar i ever met). She would tell him how my parent rude to them , how i dont care about her , how i said this . She is a smart lady .... she will pick the sentence and twist it to make it look bad. So even i asked her something nice she will twist it and tell a lie to my hubby.

Does anyone else have a hubby like this??? how to deal with this?