What is the real meaning of marriage?

pheonix684 · Apr 15, 2017

Marriage is all about luck. 99% it is a torture.

ChennaiExpress · Apr 15, 2017

pheonix684 said: ↑

Marriage is all about luck. 99% it is a torture.
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I really pray God will give you happy marriage. Either to man-up your current H, or give you a first-class upgrade. You deserve the best dear!

SharadaIyer · May 15, 2017

Viswamitra said: ↑

Dear KCB,

Thanks to Satchi bringing this thread to FB Forum, I came to know about this thread. Institution of marriage has a very special connotation in the society especially it is not based on relationship established through birth in the same family. This relationship is to be respected as such and acted accordingly by the participants irrespective of the gender. Purposefully, I am keeping the religions away here even though most religions clearly define the duties of the householder clearly and unambiguously for the benefit of those who marry.

Keeping aside the religions, here are my direct perception of the association of two through marital relationship:

1) Fundamentally the couple who venture into marital relationship should have a commitment for a long-term i.e. for life and to share and care for each other for life unconditionally not subject to exploration of their behavior and attitude that stems out of their Samskara.

2) Both of them should commit to recognize each others strengths and weaknesses and learn from each other to establish a smooth and trouble free married life.

3) There has to be a clear understanding that this relationship creates a clear commitment to stay together despite the huddles faced from outside of the marital relationship.

4) At the same time, there has to be recognition that there are relationship outside of this marriage that are relevant and important to each one of them and marital relationship can never succeed to the exclusion of mutual respect for such relationships that existed prior to their getting together.

5) The primary purpose of the marriage is to establish dharma through association of people from different walks of life and help each other in their spiritual progress. One of those duties include procreation and when not blessed with a child, adopt, bring a child into their fold and establish righteousness and human values in that child. It is not a right but duty to create a generation that would succeed the couple with Truth, Righteousness, Love, Peace and Non-violence.

6) In order to perform the duties, the couple needs to make a living which should be earned through righteous ways. Austerity should be practiced as one of the values and savings out of such austerity should be spent in charities. Duties should be performed in consultation with each other and there has to be a clear understanding that both partners in the marriage are equal in determining the values and principles of this family

7) The roles in the marriage should be distributed based on the understanding of the skills of each other. Earning, financial management, character development, performing rites for the ancestors, building the family values, knowledge and education for the children, strengthening the relationship with extended families, finding friends of similar values, company of good people, choice of worship, etc. should be determined by mutual consultation and one should give the lead to the other based on heartfelt consent.

8) Unity of the family should stand priority over everything else. There should never be adultery, conceit, indiscipline, erosion of values, etc. by either one of the partners and the primary purpose of establishing highest standards is to inculcate the greatest value to the next generation by living an exemplary life.

9) There has to be a constant learning by the couple from each other and in case of sudden loss of life of anyone, the other should be able to run the family unaffected by the loss of life.

Viswa
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HI Vishwamitra excellently explained . kudos..

Layanj · May 19, 2017

understanding and Trust

fourthaugust · May 19, 2017

Well so many beautiful responses and so much to learn from them. My idea was(and still is) to love , respect and care till death do us apart.

poi098 · Jun 5, 2017

I am very new to married life but it was nice to read everyones views

poi098 · Jun 5, 2017

The real meaning of marriage is what you make of it. If you are marrying just for ur parents sake - your entire marriage will mean only that - listening to parents.
If you are marrying because u love her \ him - then your married life will be love.
So it completely depends on what meaning you take of marriage.

SCSusila · Jun 6, 2017

In my opinion , there is not ONE REAL meaning of Marriage . It is like searching for "Meaning of Life " Each case is different . It depends on each person what meaning they want to get from it .

blissfulmember · Jul 15, 2017

Marriage is all about giving love. You love your spouse with all you have. If one is 100 percent committed and love is unconditional, everything fall in place. You get much more in return . When you Marry a spouse, your family becomes bigger. If you decide to have child, you have an oppurtunity to build a personality of child right from scratch.
It is a blissful meaning. It can't be described in words.

I am happily married for 5 years. Just loving it .