I used to come to this site a lot , now rare. because i am separated and living the best of my life. this thread triggered some memories not good though. some men are insecure. some become insecure. I became insecure. I still remember i encouraged my wife, to go out and have fun outside work with her co-workers ( in a of course decent way) . but when i found out, she was having an affair. it ruined everything. i became super insecure and being a super techie tracked her every move. she blamed me for tracking her and being nosy and rather than holding herself accountable for even feeling bad for what she did. even if she had put all her emotional and physical effort after the fact, it would have been ok but NO. So, that ended up in separation. sorry i do not want to hijack this thread. but women get more attention. and I agree fully what you have said - I wonder if it's directly linked to the type of relationship some people have in their marriage. if both the partners do not communicate their needs openly without fight, and do not put all their efforts, it is just waste and better to live alone because after some time, 1 partner will be unhappy and fight back through some way .