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Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by rashima4u, Dec 18, 2011.

  1. rashima4u

    rashima4u Silver IL'ite

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    Hi Everyone

    we had a plan to go to india in jan and we have booked our tickets and now my mom passed away on thursday in india and i want to go there and want to attend her 12th day pooja (barahvaan)
    and so my hubby booked a new ticket to india for me and my little son (i have 2 kids and planning to leave older one with hubby and they come to india on scheduled plan)

    now today we called to my MIL and told them about my new plan and she asked not to come before as my little one hasn't done his hair shaved (mundan) and this can be a risk for baby (as many womens can make some tona)

    i am so much stressed and want to go there and be with my brother n father and sisters.

    i am also worried about leaving my older son (2.5yo) here with hubby (this would be first time)

    so now my question in

    should i ignore MIL n go ?
    or go with a schedule plan ? (in 3w time)
     
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  2. justanothergirl

    justanothergirl IL Hall of Fame

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    Rashima..Deepest condolences.Please go for ur Mothers last rites. Let there be no regrets later. About what ur MIL says ..ignore it for now. If u are confident of leaving ur little one ..go ahead and leave him with ur DH or take him with you.
     
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    spuppala Gold IL'ite

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    Sorry for you Rashima..my hugs for you..

    Please attend there to see your LOVELY mother for the last time and she won't come back again even if you cry 1ooo times later.Don't want to comment anymore..Please ignore your MIL for now..I don't understand her point..Its your Mother who had passed away and not any other relative..Can you dare not to see her for the last time in your life time?
     
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    AnanyaAjay Silver IL'ite

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    Rashima,

    Sorry to hear about your mother,..

    Do one thing... Take your younger one and go to your MIL first.. Leave him there with her and go to your parents house immediately. You can't miss this. Your MIL won't praise you if you listen to her now. Just tell your hubby and go.
     
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    uma16 Senior IL'ite

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    dear rashima,
    my deepest condolences.
    i will say "hell to customs" and please go to ur mom's rites...
     
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    flowerlady IL Hall of Fame

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    Please take both your kids as the younger is too small to be left alone. You must attend your Moms last rites , drop the baby with MIL on the day of the function if they are in the same town.
    Dont let anyone handle your baby if you are scared of jaadu -tona .
    Your MILs advise would have been different if a tragedy had occured at in laws place.
     
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    lakshmi13 Gold IL'ite

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    Hi

    only few words...GO TO SEE YOUR MOTHER...
     
  8. rashima4u

    rashima4u Silver IL'ite

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    thanks a lot everyone, i also think that i don't want to regret for my whole life that i choosed not to go.

    i know conditions are a bit difficult for me..i alone can't take 2 small kids (9mo,2.5yo) with me in 8-9 hrs flight....
    so i am going with little one....older one has to stay with hubby .....thx everyone
     
  9. satchitananda

    satchitananda Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Deepest condolences and hugs to you Rashima. Glad you have decided to do the right thing, that is to go.
     
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    blackbeauty84 IL Hall of Fame

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    Deepest Condolences.Good that you have taken a wise decision.
     

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