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Discussion in 'Intimacy' started by ChennaiExpress, Apr 19, 2018.

  1. silentlistener

    silentlistener Silver IL'ite

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    Surprised really!! there is no true love in the world ? You have not found true love, not even once in your life ? If you have not experienced true love ever in your life so far with any member in your life , I would like to know what do you exactly mean by the word "true love". Please elaborate.
     
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  2. ChennaiExpress

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    I would think true love is like unconditional. In the sense, marriage where both husband and wife will stick with each other no matter what.

    In some cases, husband and wife stay together till someone better comes along. That is not true love. That is looking for a better deal.
     
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    Benadryl Senior IL'ite

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    Why do you think faithfulness, financial support, understanding during pregnancy cannot be expected from young men ? What really drives this thought in you ?

    Women give sex to get love and men give love to get sex - this is an ironically true statement.

    When I was younger, all I wanted to do was to be gigolo. What 20 year old doesn't want to have sex all the time - and get paid for it ! Looking back, those were just the hormones and thank heavens I didn't opt for that career. I believe, even if you are married to a Greek God (young or old), after a while the desire for sex will just wane. Its human nature and it's a natural course of progression. IIRC it was Osho who said, when there is love in a relationship, the sex falls away. The desire for a lot of sex is an indicator of lack of love.

    I would humbly suggest you look for compatibility and respect in a relationship. Don't think for one minute that you will not have to change after marriage. Both partners will need to make mends in their ways of life to live happily. The older one is, the more set in their ways they are so all the adjustment will probably be from your side. Are you up for this ? Love will happen when it will happen - its overrated anyway. I don't think anyone can be in love with another person 24/7. It goes in cycles. Just the duality that humans are faced with all the time - yin and yang or whatever you want to call it.

    An older spouse may also have less faithfulness (hidden mistresses for all you know) and less understanding during pregnancy as they may have been understanding in the past and are no longer interested. What if you and your kid(s) are excluded from an older spouses will? I think there are many other aspects to think about, more important than finding out till when men can get an erection. Other than an older spouse passing away relatively early - this also poses risk of loss of a parent for the kids. Then if you remarry, that will be another set of adjustments.
     
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    Bad experience with my ex. He made me feel much older than I was even though I looked younger than him.

    I suppose a young spouse can be faithful, give financial support, and certainly understanding during pregnancy (and other times of course).

    I agree. That is why I notice I feel more comfortable with someone who I think would love me, i.e. likely an older man. But that may be false sense of security (depending on the person)

    Well, ok. That makes sense. I guess if there is Love, the Physical part comes naturally.

    I never thought of it that way.

    Do you think when an older man wants a younger woman, he expects her to change while he remains same?

    I don't think Love is overrated. Love started with God.


    Young person can also have hidden mistresses. Are you saying older spouse is more skilled at hiding the mistresses?

    I have my own money. I'm concerned about the security of my money. I am looking at, which spouse is more likely to leave my money alone. There are lot of bad apples out there who marry to snatch the money.

    Younger men looking for older women who have saved over the years.

    But then again, an older man can also be searching for money.

    I based my conclusions on general statistics.

    I agree
     
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    Sunshine04 Gold IL'ite

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    very true. good analysis:wave:
     
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    Benadryl Senior IL'ite

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    I don't know much about you other than a few posts that I read on this forum. So don't get me wrong when I say, you seem to be preparing yourself to attract toxic relationships. First you talk about love that started with the Gods, then you want to find such love, but have conditions where you want the other party to leave your money alone. I am guessing unconditional love will have no boundaries. Your requirement of your money being left alone itself is bound to cause you problems, sooner or later.

    Looks like your ex was an insecure fellow who tried to make you feel the way you felt. I think its partly your fault.

    Also, I am thinking, you think the love that started with the Gods is same as human love. I beg to differ. From what little studies I have done, the love of the Gods is a human representation of Sat-Chit-Ananda. My understanding is that is the love/eternal bliss one experiences when a person is one with the Universe/God/Dhamma/whatever as a result of mental discipline. You will be horribly and sadly mistaken if you want to experience the Love that started with the Gods love, devotion and surrender from a human being.

    Most God related things are metaphors, imho. Our ancestors were clever in projecting God in our image. Want to legalise marijuana ? Lets make Shiva smoke it - as if God needs to get high. Need two marry a second time around ? South Indians made the concept that God can have two wives - what God would need two consorts to get His rocks off ? What God would even need the desire to have sex ? Just my two cents.
     
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    Ok, I understand from your post and the compassionate posts from ladies here that one has to look at many facets before going into relationship.

    Healing takes time. Now I am asking God to find spouse and show me proper signs. Many times the devil will impersonate God's signals so you fall into a trap (I noticed this many times)

    I am looking for spouse who acts like adult rather than expecting his wife to earn while being submissive. (again, this was my ex. My wounds are taking longer to heal than others, but I am trying to face it and move ion)

    I'm like a bird looking to perch on a tree. If the tree starts abusing me, I must find the wings to fly. If one can internalize this, it would solve (and prevent) lot of marital problems.

    And it is true, it is partly our fault for ending up with toxic people. Because we don't love ourselves to realize we deserve better. Or we forget there is a Higher Power that can redeem us.

    I must say, the way you bluntly said it's my fault comes across as very rude. When people are having rough patch, we look at Indus Ladies as a safe space to post. Mainly the rough patch is from the downsides of Indian society (all societies have problems), namely, males feel they can walk all over women. You yourself are a male posting in a forum (and a thread) meant for females, and are coming across as rude with that statement.

    How would you like if someone says it is your fault for your parents to demand $$$ from you while your sisters don't contribute.

    Humans are Humans and God is one.

    Since God is Creator (per my beliefs, and most people on IL), I am asking God for the proper person. Of course when God actually answers our call, there is still lot of work to do.

    Humans are imperfect. God is perfect.


    That is true, that is why I am following Sikhism and reading Guru Granth Sahib (with is the 11th Guru, not some self-appointed god-person or extremist, but that is for another post)

    Sat Shri Akal
     
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    some girls are not wordly wise to know the person is toxic
     
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    medical marijuana has helped countless kids with epilepsy and patients with chronic pain
     
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    That describes me. I was not worldly wise. And we all have human emotions and weaknesses that can get exploited.

    People online tend to talk nasty because they believe they are anonymous. Best thing is to Report and Block these online trolls.
     
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