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Its ok to be an introvert provided it doesn’t bother you and you don’t look at it as a shortcoming. Seems like it does bother you , so why not try to change it? Take baby steps . next time you are in a social setting practice before hand what you are going to talk about. Join some class / volunteer just so you learn to interact with others comfortably . When you get more comfortable go for a public speaking class.
A good way to keep in touch is by wishing people on their birthdays and festivals. If not a call, send a message so you are on their radar and not forgotten.
But aside from all this, it’s Very Very important that you are happy and content from within. Don’t let your happiness depend on others and their acceptance of you. Accept yourself the way you are first. Maybe this will stop the feeling of being ignored by parents and the spouse. Work on your self esteem , will help you in every sphere of life.

Please take care !!

 

I was also like that before marriage. Now improved on it but still not much outspoken just show my presence with little wishes with smiles. Due to living in joint family I had to speak up to many people that changed me to some extent. I think when you talk to more people and take advantage of every chance you get can only help. If you live alone you can invite someone to your place or go to someone from your relatives and friends so that you can get more chance to come out. Regular meetings and conversation can make you improve a lot.

 

OP, don't worry. We are here to listen.

I am also an introvert. It is perfectly fine. If you can be happy in your own world ,all these issues will not affect you much.

First of all, accept yourself. Stop depending on others for your happiness. One problem is most introverts are very sensitive and need emotional assurance . They need lot of "me time". So instead of searching for solutions outside try to focus on you. You have to be happy and comfortable with yourself. Only then the behaviour of other people, stop bothering you.

You don't need many in this world to survive. No one can help you beyond a limit. So try to help yourself. Lower your expectations from everyone. Your relatives or friends are busy in their own world. It is not there fault that they are not spending time for you. It is also not your fault.

Look like you don't have any close friends to talk to you. If you have anyone talk to them once in a while. It is possible to improve our social skills to some extent, but it is not that possible to change introvert nature..one issue I noticed is that often we don't know what to talk or how to communicate well. Just observe your favourite people,see how they start conversation, their body language, positive outlook. Observe and implement.

Be comfortable with yourself. Try to dress in elegant way when you go out. Practice a good posture and body language. There are lot of youtube videos and information on internet on this topic.

Try to smile and greet people. Be pleasant . Go out of your home to participate in social and volunteer activities or you can even try any classes. Try to mingle with more people. See the tips from other ilites.

Have you watched sreedevi movie 'English vinglish'? Like that any age is good enough to learn new skills. Suppose you are in a foreign land all alone. What you will do. You will shed your inhibitions and start minimum communication because that is needed for survival. Same way try to come out of your comfort zone. You can do it.

Be confident. If not, work on your self esteem. Try to create a world for you , be busy and active. Don't depend on your dh too much for your happiness. If you have anything important , ask him when he can be available. That time go and talk to him in calm and composed way.
Take care

 

OP, what is the point in going after people who don't care or with whom you are not comfortable with. Those who are destined to be in your life will be there for you. It is better to be around positive people.

I don't how healthy chat rooms are. It can became positive or negative. May be spending some time here in IL will be better.

Also please check the way you talk or communicate. Sometimes even if we think in right and positive way, it can come out in not so welcoming way. How to communicate is important. But it is equally important in what way one communicate it - do a self check on your tone of speaking, selection of words, how we deliver it... our body language, face expression etc..
I always focus on the content, not on how it is communicated. I soon realised that is an issue and I am still trying to improve it.
Be positive.

 

Show your presence start some new topic tell little things from your life that made you laugh tell them about your taste related to dresses or places to visit. Give favour when needed. Invite them entertain them and try to get involved instead of sitting idle and thinking like that.

 

Whether it is in WhatsApp or in real life, you have to make your presence acknowledgeable.

 

Instead of chat rooms I would suggest learning or teaching another language online, that gives you communication with others but also a new skill.