Suggestions For Saving Family Belongings From Sils

Dear Friends,

My DH has two younger sisters were married and settled in the same town where my parents in law belongs too. As our marriage is bit late in the family to avoid any chaos in near future my MIL made all the property division before our marriage.They gave those settlements to both daughter in written format. But for us, I meant in my husband name nothing got registered even the land bought with major investment from husband money is in my father in law name as my DH was in US by that time. It was said that what ever is currently with them( Parents in law) is belongs to my husband in the time of our marriage.

With that preface my MIL was a heart patient and due to ill health she passed away an year before.We are living in Bangalore as myself and my DH works here. My Father in law alone staying there in our home town.We both visit him once in two months. It was all fine till first death anniversary of my MIL.Now my sister in law started asking for their share in the land, they quote that they are struggling as their husband's earnings are not sufficient as the children gets grow. myself and My DH felt very bad as my FIL is alone there and they give emotional threatening to him, the claim the dividend provide was not equal to my husband. Only our home the ancestral property is added to us comparing to them, as my DH is only son naturally the home was marked to him. They started asking to give all the jewels of my MIL to them, which my DH feel very sentimental, so he says he will give the money equivalent to that value.Both my DH and FIL are very calm and understanding so they cant fight for it, they were sitting and explaining them again and again why it is this way.

Both of SIL are post graduate but my husband is just a Diploma he earned everything on his own hard work. he lost much of his saving in the name of business earlier, now what left us is only those property. My SILs are so demanding and its gets wider and wider every day. Till date I never said any responses towards this behavior to my FIL and SILs.

My MIL was very clear and she know the in and out of their daughter she was managing it till date. After her its getting hard for us. The pathetic fellow is my DH where he is little adamant in nature says he cant even scold his sister as they are motherless children. I couldn't much help and give up on this situation. above all they are stealing everything from our home which tests my patient , they have taken all the silver articles my MIL had and even vessels at home. This year for pongal when I gone they have gone taken the pongal pot which my MIL used for decade. My husband asks me not to create issue on this am am really getting pissed off.

I wish to handle is wisely without any issues. Please give us suggesstion

 

Thanks suasin for the response.

I agree to your points on settlement am pushing him on this regard now. let me hope for better results.

My MIL was very clever that she already parceled most of things without knowledge of my Father in law,like jewels my husband bought for herself and me(Future wife).

She had only few for traditional things, she was very rigid that even for our first pongal she used only her own and didnt touch the ones my mom gave to me. She advised(Ordered) me to use only that for every Pongal in future. I have enough things as most of my seedhanam were untouched. But I couldn't bear this act like stealing from my home when am not there.