See for us I was okay with him having a beer or two once a week or twice a week when we went out for dinner. But A. He started taking advantage of it. B. He would make up for not drinking much by getting drunk or close to drunk when he got with a friend. And that's what ruined the idea of drinking. I am primarily American raised so I understood drinking was part of the culture. But hell even my white colleagues and all said gone are the days of getting wasted now. After certain again it's different priorities. n my husband's priorities would change for a day or two and then go back which is why I highly recommend to all singles if you are in a relationship please figure out appropriate measures of drinking and such habits.