So so glad, you are working outside. How’s your IL situation? Do they like you? Now, fix your immigration status- citizenship or your own GC. Build some nest eggs. Make some good friends and acquaintances. Doing all this, don’t separate. Even friends are easier to make, while married. Do not beg for his equal partnership in marriage while you are doing. Please also start going out with your girl gang. All above, is not to make him jealous but to establish a life style for yourself, while still being married. After doing all above (shd take 2-3 years), he might have changed- meaning become a little better to live as roommates. If not, then you give him ultimatum and bring him to table. If he stonewalls you still and being mean still, then go ahead with divorce. Before divorce, just know that there are very few good men out there, so if you can live alone for next 5 ( hopefully in 5 years you will find someone) or forever, drawing strength from your lifestyle, then go ahead and divorce.