1. How to Build Positivity in Married Life? : Click Here
    Dismiss Notice

Short story on MILs & DILs

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by Chilbuli Imli, Apr 23, 2006.

  1. Chilbuli Imli

    Chilbuli Imli Senior IL'ite

    Messages:
    147
    Likes Received:
    7
    Trophy Points:
    23
    Gender:
    Female
    A long time ago in China, a girl named Li-Li got married and went to live with her husband and mother-in-law. In a very short time, Li-Li found that she couldn't get along with her mother-in-law at all.

    Their personalities were very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law's habits. In addition, she criticised Li constantly.

    Days passed days, and weeks passed weeks. Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stopped arguing and fighting. But what made the situation even worse was that, according to ancient Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to bow to her mother-in-law and obey her every wish.

    All the anger and unhappiness in the house was causing Li-Li's poor husband great distress.

    Finally, Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-law's bad temper and dictatorship any longer, and she decided to do something about it.

    Li-Li went to see her father's good friend, Mr. Huang, who sold herbs. She told him the situation and asked if he would give her some poison so that she could solve the problem once and for all. Mr. Huang thought for a while, and finally said, Li-Li, I will help you solve your problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell you. Li-Li said, "Yes, Mr. Huang, I will do whatever you tell me to do."

    Mr.Huang went into the back room, and returned in a few minutes with a package of herbs. He told Li-Li, "You can't use a quick-acting poison to get rid of your mother-in-law, because that would cause people to become suspicious. Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly build up poison in her body. Every other day prepare some delicious meal and put a little of these herbs in her serving. Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspects you when she dies, you must be very careful to act very friendly towards her. Don't argue with her, obey her every wish, and treat her like a queen."

    Li-Li was so happy. She thanked Mr. Huang and hurried home to start her plot of murdering her mother-in-law.

    Weeks went by, and months went by, and every other day, Li-Li served the specially treated food to her mother-in-law. She remembered what Mr.Huang had said about avoiding suspicion, so she controlled her temper, obeyed her mother-in-law, and treated her like her own mother. After six months had passed, the whole household had changed.

    Li-Li had practiced controlling her temper so much that she found that she almost never got mad or upset. She hadn't had an argument with her mother-in-law in six months because she now seemed much kinder and easier to get along with.

    The mother-in-law's attitude toward Li-Li changed, and she began to love Li-Li like her own daughter. She kept telling friends and relatives that Li-Li was the best daughter-in-law one could ever find. Li-Li and her mother-in-law were now treating each other like a real mother and daughter.

    Li-Li's husband was very happy to see what was happening.

    One day, Li-Li came to see Mr. Huang and asked for his help again. She said, "Dear Mr. Huang, please help me to keep the poison from killing my mother-in-law! She's changed into such a nice woman, and I love her like my own mother. I do not want her to die because of the poison I gave her."

    Mr. Huang smiled and nodded his head. "Li-Li, there's nothing to worry about. I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave you were vitimans to improve her health. The only poison was in your mind and your attitude toward her, but that has been all washed away by the love which you gave to her."
     
    Last edited: Apr 23, 2006
    Loading...

  2. nishajeet

    nishajeet New IL'ite

    Messages:
    9
    Likes Received:
    0
    Trophy Points:
    1
    Gender:
    Female
    gud moral

    hey.
    its really an wounderful story and gud moral for whomer suffering with family stress with these type of problems.


    cheers,
    nisha:wave
     
  3. rajmiarun

    rajmiarun Silver IL'ite

    Messages:
    1,133
    Likes Received:
    60
    Trophy Points:
    83
    Gender:
    Female
    That was so much thought provoking

    Dear Chubli,

    That story was very thought provoking and when reading that I remembered one thing what my husband told me bef marriage when we met first. He said, I am the youngest of the family and I dont want any rupture to be caused bec of you. Before talking anything to anyone in the family just think twice. When our MIL says something which irritates you think for a moment, if the same had been said by your mother what will be your reaction. The same to be used for one and all in the family even for the kids as they are in the family even before I have entered.

    Till date I am following it. Also I remember one thing which I read, if the kitchen cabinet is quite and peaceful, then the entire household will be at peace so it is in the hands of the DILs to maintain the peace
     
    Last edited: Dec 8, 2006
  4. Kamla

    Kamla IL Hall of Fame

    Messages:
    8,437
    Likes Received:
    5,036
    Trophy Points:
    440
    Gender:
    Female
    A chilbuli tale!

    Dear Chilbuli Imli......

    Your story was just like your name, khatta, meeta and a bit natkhat (naughty!)!
    Enjoyed reading this sweet short story. Thanks to you.

    L, Kamla
     
  5. MeenLoch

    MeenLoch Silver IL'ite

    Messages:
    569
    Likes Received:
    26
    Trophy Points:
    50
    Gender:
    Female
    i too wish I practice this for good. It s easier to change our own selves than demanding the situation to change. Controlling those sudden outbursts should pay. This article inspires me to try it for sometime.
     
  6. roopadadia

    roopadadia Silver IL'ite

    Messages:
    1,783
    Likes Received:
    56
    Trophy Points:
    83
    Gender:
    Female
    Hi Rajmi,

    Even i practice the same...but sometimes if things go over board then have to put our foot down.

    But this practice really helps. I wish all the new members of IL who are having trouble at home try this.

    Chulbuli...i thought let me reply to this and see if we can get more viewers who can benefit from this story.

    Warm regards
    Roopa.
     
  7. sundarusha

    sundarusha Gold IL'ite

    Messages:
    3,427
    Likes Received:
    181
    Trophy Points:
    160
    Gender:
    Female
    Hi Chibuli,

    Loved your story. Very thought- provoking. Will try it with anyone who I find difficult to deal with.
     
  8. veen

    veen Senior IL'ite

    Messages:
    215
    Likes Received:
    0
    Trophy Points:
    16
    Gender:
    Female
    Hi

    Nice story with a good moral . Thank you:wave
     
  9. hopeforgood

    hopeforgood New IL'ite

    Messages:
    65
    Likes Received:
    1
    Trophy Points:
    8
    Gender:
    Female
    Really good one with a good moral...thank you..it was an eye opener...
     
  10. Nandshyam

    Nandshyam IL Hall of Fame

    Messages:
    5,431
    Likes Received:
    2,172
    Trophy Points:
    340
    Gender:
    Female
    Nice Story !!!

    But I disagree HarharHarhar

    Just because Li-Li thought, enough is enough and decided to do something extreme, doesn't mean shes the only one at fault. What if the MIL of her's is a real devil and doesn't care for Li-Li at all.

    The moral of the story is, however a MIL treats you, DIL has to let go of their self-respect and be like a emotionless person taking in all the hardships and project a calm and contended outlook, hoping that it will all change in due course? By the time this so called light comes up in her life.. I guess she will be ready to be a MIL herself

    Now, thats funny ;)
     
    Last edited: Apr 19, 2008
    2 people like this.

Share This Page