hi, I am male (42y) from Mumbai. I hope I am allowed to post as it is a ladies forum. we are married for 12y and have one 8y old child. life was going ok..but recently i discovered that my wife started a fun sex with a male (who is also married) from her family friend's house. This could happen only 3-4 times over a period of 4 years as she could only got this much opportunities to be with him while I am away. She consider him best friend and tells everything. After knowing, I am literally devastated and in full of depression. its very difficult to concentrate on work. I have talked to her but she won't ack under any circumtances including if we need to seperate out. I look all options including divorce but its very difficult to be away with child. I always wanted to be both parents around her. Few people advise me to ignore this and focus on your kid and yourself. but I don't know how would be my life while this will keep going (there is not a option to stop or 'that person go away' because the area we live). Since she didn't ack, from her side this thing never happened . I can divorce her but then I will be alone as I don't want to start new relationship in the late phase of life - I wanted to do something else on carrier side. But also I don't want to live in this mess. its very difficult for a person to be in who didn't do any thing like this. Pls assume what i stated are confirmed facts. I am looking forward to see your views and help in my situation.