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Dear sir,

Again i am here and here are some of my points

1) What are the techniques a young woman can use during courtship to find whether the prospective groom deserves respect and is not a male chauvinist?

- Search via social network like facebook.. need to check complete history from the day posted, Photos, likes, posts shared, Types of friends etc etc

- Linked in profile to validate his work log
- enquiry using colleagues
- we can definitely get rough idea abt the guy


2) What are the root causes under which a man changes his demeanor especially after he appeared to be a perfect gentleman during the courtship and how to address them? - No one can study complete character in courtship period, so something we need to let go, if it is really serious, we can address.

3) What are the things a newly married woman can do to change him to become a fine gentleman again? - I dont know what to say , if parents cant change guy's character how come newly married girl can come and change. its highly impossible. No one can change any one's character...

 

Regarding Point 5 above: Watson would come out with methodology in future.
Thanks
Regards.
God Bless.

 

It is interesting to read about wiping moustache and it’s Removal.
She saw me with mustache very first time when I formally went to see her with my parents. Few months later on the eve of wedding i.e. jannavasam she saw me without it!
Afterward till this day, I never sported it.
Regards.

 

First one, I would say is if groom has a good nature with permenant job , then iam sure things will fall in line with the couple. It is a long term commitment, so good character and conduct will take the first priority and the next important one is job .sorry as iam little busy with infant at home , I only read in free time.

 

Viswa sir I truly appreciate your humbleness.

Some time back I read a thread here on IL. In which OP had mentioned that her husband never showed any affection during their courtship and after marriage they had huge intimacy issues. So anything like is a huge red flag.

Never fall for statements by parents or anyone that every thing will be allright after marriage or he will change after you are married to him. If something is not making sense now it definitely wouldn't make any sense later.

I would stay away from some one who says respect my parents no matter what. That clearly shows that he is expecting the girl to bend over backwards and will never back her up in in-laws related issues.

Someone asks for dowry a big no, even if girls parents can happily afford a royal wedding.I also do not understand when people say we didn't even take a penny from girl's side, we just demanded a nice wedding. Man you are not entitled to anything.

Usually people reveal a lot during an argument. So if there is an argument during courtship be vigilant. Does he display his ego or he handles it like a gentleman.

After marriage it's good if you mature up very soon. Girls should not expect to be pampered all the time like they do from their daddy's and boys should not expect a mother's care.

My better half is never good with compliments so he never complimented me in the beginning years and being a typical girl I always took it personally. I expected him to compliment me and say that he loves me every now and thn. When I realised it has nothing to do with me, its just that he is not v expressive I started asking him honey can you please honestly tell me how I look or love can you please say that you love me. Not that I always get the answers I want but we laugh a lot about it.

I believe we really evolve as people and if we are sticking hard to the person he or she was or to the person in our head we loose a lot of touch with reality.

Viswa sir my heartfelt regards to Mrs viswamita. Its a pure joy to read about the bond you both share.

 

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