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Hi,

My take here


1) Academic background - yes
2) Employment - Most Important and number 1 priority
3) Green card or citizenship of the US, if she is planning to settle down in the US. - less priority
4) Body-building - Nope
5) Physical appearance - Yes, not very much , girls fall in love via ears
6) Someone who is receptive to the pursuit of her career - Yes, but if guy is really well settled, then this is less important
7) Nice interaction with in-laws - Yes, important
8) Someone who is receptive to the pursuit of an art, music, etc. - I dont think so
9) Someone who has an impeccable character - yes, but if he is boring, then girls will not go for that, dont need father figure again
10) Clean habits - we never know this if it is arranged marriage
11) Someone who is willing to make a long term commitment to be together - Invalid question Marriage means this is by default yes, no one will look for short term commitment in marriage
12) Someone who will be a great dad to her children - we never know till he become one.. so cant rate based on this
13) Someone who will really love, care and share. - love before and after marriage are totally diff, but yes this is one important point..


One More important thing i would like to add is sense of Humor, That is a huge plus for guys..

AND I am going to be very straight forward here, Girls prefer Nuclear set up in initial days later expect support from in laws for baby..
And no sister in law means bonus points.. dont judge me

 

@Viswamitra

Dear Viswa Sir,

I think i should have explained father figure in my comment - father can guide, control the kid, be a role model, sometimes Father Knows everything...

But Girls want someone like a friend, no controlling, more sharing, loving, gossiping, fighting, the way they can move with a friend, thats how they will be able to sail through difficult path in life.. just my 2 cents

 

I read the above book by Allan and Barbara Pease cover to cover. It s a wonderful book really really wonderful book ; every sentence of the book has an implication and application in one's real life

Very much true but there is a catch. Is there any way to confirm the above before starting the real life with the said guy? Even during courtship, it's impossible to confirm the above qualities ! An element of luck, unpredictability and sort of gambling does exist here.

 

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Thanks , sorry I had already deleted the post by the time you replied , as I felt I couldn't relate much to checklist as I have done love marriage . Still, thanks for your appreciation .
Yes, that's what I meant regarding that point .

 

That is so true infact I myself was going to write it but I just skipped it. We can only truly know about someone once we live under the same roof bound by commitment, not just about our partner we get to know so much about ourselves as well once we are married. It's a big gamble and luck no amount of match making can predict the strength of a marriage.

 

Well said !