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Second Pregnancy Support

Discussion in 'Pregnancy & Labor' started by chikyala, May 23, 2008.

  1. enlightened

    enlightened Bronze IL'ite

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    Re: I'm Pregnant Again :)

    Dear Sumi,
    Many congratulations to you and kudos for having made the decision.You will see the difference ,yourself when you have your second.Will make a world of difference to your family.At least that is what I felt when I had my second one.My family is now complete and the biggest difference is that my elder one has now a companion in his younger brother.May God be with you and your children.

    Deepa.
     
  2. shantisubra

    shantisubra Gold IL'ite

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    Re: I'm Pregnant Again :)

    Dear Sumy

    Congrats to you in first place. Sumy, it is of course difficult to handle things alone without support, but with an infant inside you.

    Sumy, I dont want to discourage you, but why your DH did not take any caution if he is so much against a second baby. He cannot be so cruel. He wants comfort, but cannot face the result........ that's ridiculous.

    Please take help from neighbours and have nice food prepared from them and fulfill your cravings if any. Explain and make your in-laws esp. MiL understand a mother's feelings (Did nt she a mother too?) and tell her that you want to eat this, and you will be highly obliged if she can help in making them in the kitchen. I am sure she will come down and accept and support you. Your siblings are in different locales?

    Don't worry. Battu Caves Lord Muruga will bless you on this Adi Krithigai day and help you to overcome all difficulties and deliver a bonny baby thru painless labor.

    God bless you. Good Luck.

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    Best Wishes
    Shanti
     
  3. mridusudha

    mridusudha Silver IL'ite

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    Re: I'm Pregnant Again :)

    Sumy,

    I understand your intention/decision to go ahead and have this child inspite of no family support. But don't you think you will be doing great injustice to the unborn child. What if your hubby continues to not support you and start disliking your child? You said you are financially independent but is financial independence enough to lead your life with 2 kids?? Don't you need family support or emotional support? If need arises, will you be able to separate from your husband and bring up 2 kids all by yourself? What if your hubby taunts you for this for your entire life? Are you willing to face the consequences?

    I am strictly against abortion (Except for medical conditions) but in your case I think you need to think practically rather than emotionally. Will your family life be peaceful if you have this baby inspite of your hubby's resistance?

    Most of the women out there might not like my reply but "what is the point in having a kid when only one parent is ready and the other NOT"!!!

    I sincerely pray to God to put some sense in your husband's mind to support you in your pregnancy. If you think he is not going to change no matter what, then I think you need to re-think the decision you made.

    Good Luck!
     
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  4. Priya_Mommy

    Priya_Mommy Gold IL'ite

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    Re: I'm Pregnant Again :)

    Sumy,
    First of all hearty congratulations for your pregnancy.
    Yes, I second mridusudha's thoughts. Financial independance alone can't help to rise kids, but lot of emotional and family support too. If the same kind of hatred continues towards unborn child, and after delivery nodoubt everything will be in mess and your husband might not change. But again, looking at LO, people may change too. May be he is true that one more kid might be a burden to the finances. Its not only giving birth right, we have to give right education,quality of life and values too......So, try discussing with your husband and pour in your thoughts and ask him for a concern towards you and your wish.
     
  5. mamma

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    Re: 2nd Pregnancy

    Yes.This is the exact point that is confusing me. I'm yet to make a decision.
    My appt. is scheduled only next week. I'm waiting for the doctor to confirm my pregnancy and overall health.

    I really appreciate everyone's suggestions. Thanks a lot and please continue to guide me.
     
  6. Laks09

    Laks09 Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Re: 2nd Pregnancy

    Relax, take it easy for the next week. Anyway, you can't decide either way until you see the doctor.
    Keep us updated on how things are. I'm sure everything will be normal and you can travel.

    Good Luck,
    L
     
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    Re: I'm Pregnant Again :)

    sometimes it really becomes difficult to change peoples mindset..my mil had hatred towards gal babies when i was pregnant my DD is 24 days old now and its continuing...in my case its mil but here its your dh so please take a wise decision...if your dh was not interested in having a second baby he could have taken necessary precautions in last 2 yrs rather than repenting now
     
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    Hello preggi dears,
    This thread is dedicated for second timers who already have a LO.
    Though you are experienced, every pregnancy is unique for ladies.
    Enjoy posting here and get your queries resolved!!!
     
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    Re: my kid is 1 yr old and i guess im pregnent

    hey be cool everything will be fine even i was in the same trouble when i came to know that i am again pregnant when my girl was 11months c-section. now i have a baby 5mnths at starting it was very hard for me but as times go everything got nice now they play together atleast they wont search for kids to play with them bcoz they themself make a good companion.
    so cheer up life never stops
     
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    Re: 2nd Pregnancy

    I am back after a long time. I had my doctor's appointment and it turned out that I might have ovulated later than expected. I am yet to have my 2nd u/s to confirm my due date. As of now, I have decided to stay back and maybe hire a nanny.
    I see that there are few others who are in the same boat i.e. less gap between both the kids. I would like to hear from them on how they are managing.
     

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