Scared- Family Planning

I have the same doubt. For most women from India, initially for first few times of s** can be more like chore but eventually as you start liking/loving your husband you probably will have more urge for it. Until and unless you consummate and try you never know. Nevertheless, if both of you are in agreement then fine but what if your 'wants' changes in future, so just want to make you aware of it. Don't conclude if you are asexual without giving it a try. And to try for a baby, you got to be relaxed and stress free. Go on for a vacation with your husband and plan. Since you have irregular periods, I suggest you to use "Ovulation Kit" to help you find the most fertile time in your cycle so you guys can plan a baby. This is just like pregnancy kit, and should be available in any shop over the counter or pharmacy. When we planned for a baby, I got pregnant the same month using this. So it can be helpful for you. Good Luck to you!

 

A friend of mine had irregular periods and had difficulty in conceiving her second child, her gynaecologist put her on a pill.. probably birth control pill to regulate her cycle for few months. It was easy to conceive after she was off the pill.

I conceived by following an online ovulation calendar for a month.Many women with good fertility rate can conceive when they are able to try during their fertile days and you never know until you try. It usually can take up to a year to conceive.Ovulation calendar/apps, ovulation kits like clear blue all are of great help. Another friend used clear blue kit and it helped her conceive within few months. These kits are much cheaper compared to the expensive Ivf treatments, those will also take a woman on an emotional roller coaster ride, plus the physical pain and possible side effects with a hell lot of injections. I have seen some of my friends struggling the hard way for a baby.

There is always a starting point and you have to take that initiative, always try the easy way first - try naturally and take your doctors help to regulate your periods, self help is the best help! Seek treatment if needed.Stay positive and stress free.Read something relaxing, listen to some good music,pamper your self with something you like and try your best.Good luck

 

I used clear blue and I think you can use any kit which has positive reviews. Just follow the instructions thoroughly in the kit and before that try to be in a good healthy diet. Eat lots of vegs/fruits and keep yourself hydrated. I believe you have been taking folic acid prenatal tablets. The ovulation kit will help one find the most fertile days in the cycle, you & your DH should be prepared to have physical relationship around those days almost everyday to get pregnant. Try not to do it as a chore but be relaxed & turn on nice music. Also please remember, sometimes how fast you can conceive can depend on your body condition too. So if not the first attempt, don't get stressed. Study your body pattern and take good food and relax. It will eventually happen. IVF should be your last resort. Take care and be strong. Good luck again!

 

Of course, why not! I got pregnant when I was around 30. Earlier is better but 28 isn't too late. It depends completely on your mental and bodily health too. I can see tension within you which is no good.

If people see you being married as a weak point, how about becoming pregnant and bearing a child who will be your dependent later, that will be a bigger weak point, is it? If you bog down now to your MIL's taunting, you will continue to surrender once you have a kid too and you will never ever be able to talk for yourself. Please, don't hurry up for a child because your MIL is pestering you. Stand up for yourself. Have baby when you and your partner want to.
Most of all you seemed to be confused about what marriage is. What made you think that submitting for intimacy to DH is like a used thing? On what basis, did you agree to marry? If your DH was ready for intimacy, would you have done it? First of all, you got to clear up your thinking. Its very important for overall health which also includes overall family's well being.

 

Read books or some online articles regarding couples relationship. I once read article which said, intimacy means "In-to-me-See", its more of blending of our heart with one another's so we can see into each other, more of closeness with partner, the one whom you can rely on in love and trust. Of course, every relationship is different but coming together as one is the goal, that is why we make family not for sake of it. The more you read or talk with counselors(if possible) you can understand them.