Relationships Forum Chatter & Grey Matter

All DILs are sly. but all ILs gave good sanskars to their daughters who are perfect DILs. so where are these sly DILs coming from? just wondering

We importing them from mars? gotcha - outsourcing defect.
men are from mars, women from venus

sorry @coolgal123 couldnt help myself

 

I have seen this. if the woman is not happy, the family is cursed. she might not actually curse them but somehow the family never grows to its full potential and some problem or the other chipkos the next generation.


Seeing the impunity with which some people behave i joke that they have found a "sarva paap nivaran mantra". just one maala morning and evening and all sins washed away - like, rin ki chamkaar zyaada safed. daag achche hain


PS: apologies for cracking jokes in my replies to your posts.

 

On the brighter side - times seem to be changing.

Depressing side - some people refuse to wake up and see that its a new morning.

But frankly discussing here will solve nothing unless some people are ready to forfeit their historic advantage for a fairer society. some conscientious men and women have paved the path to a better tomorrow. what will help is self introspection and doing the right thing rather than the easy thing.

Everybody knows in their hearts when they are wrong.

will take a break. it is too depressing for me. wish everybody a happy weekend.

 

you are welcome

 

It is good if the change is there and girls and parents are upfront about their requirements which is what I am advocating which unfortunately I don't see much.

But I do see another trend , girls parents are demanding care from their daughters which I think is good trend

 

I agree on this one. I find it hard to imagine that well qualified girls who are earning enough to take care of themselves and their parents do not have the courage of conviction to stand up against their parents and relatives if they are pressured to get married. The bigger mystery are girls who are willing to allow their parents to pay a hefty dowry and some who even complain that their parents did not do enough for the wedding.

As for more girls saying no leading to more unmarried men, that is not true. The only solution that seems to be available is inter caste, inter communal, inter religious and international marriages. That would be the only equalizer in the long run.

 

With a prejudiced mind, one can see only this much....

 

What do you advocate for boy's side??? should they just enjoy cultural practices which give them unduly advantage though unethical or they should try to be more upfront and fair and ethical???

 

Judgement

Are you against girls parents getting care ...

 

It is the not the boys who are suffering , it is the girls who are suffering , it is girls who need to take steps for change. Depending on others to change is again being dependent like we did for ages .....

Need change , stand up, leave excuses and fight and be ready to face consequences fight and also the rewards ...