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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Rihana, Jun 22, 2016.

  1. sindmani

    sindmani Platinum IL'ite

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    U can teach kathak too. Many children will come
     
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    That is amazing that you have learnt classical dance for 3 years . If you still have interest , you can continue learning for a few years . You mentioned that the kids are small so is there a way you can take some 1-2 hours classes a week while someone else watches your kids and come up to speed ? Nowadays I see dance teachers on YouTube but I am not sold on the idea of learning dance through a virtual medium . That should be the last option if you can’t learn in person . A virtual teacher cannot correct your mudras and Bhavas or tatkar ( footwork ) so you may end up doing a wrong technique for years without even knowing . Still, you can check out YouTube as there are many online schools offering lessons now .

    I would not recommended you teaching right now because classical dance is not like Bollywood dance which you can just learn from YouTube and start dancing . Classical dance needs several years of discipline and rigorous training under a trained teacher and it’s not for the faint of heart . Pursue it for a good 5-7 years and then think about teaching . Also , opening your dance shcool is a lot of commitment because students will only come in the evenings or weekends which means when your kids are home , you are away . It still can be done though with some support from family .
     
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    MonikaSG Gold IL'ite

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    As per my knowledge this dance has two stages. Diploma in 4 years and degree in 8 years. If I go for 5 more years + one year of revisions then after 6 years of struggle I will be able to become a dance teacher. That too if done at home the limitations you already told and if go at school then the salary they provide don't know will it justify my long struggle. And also this is the field where one either need a family background with same field or the strong family support with interest in it. I mean a long way to struggle and don't know where it will take. If I get the chance to learn that again I will keep it as hobby and will try to teach if someone come to me willingly not otherwise.
     
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    For financial independence or not, do not let your talent die. Start from now and try to complete the degree in few years. Meanwhile, you can still start teaching at home to neighbourhood girls. Start from there. It's not good to waste your skill. It can add so much joy to your life.
     
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    Yes you right. I too was feeling about it. I although completely forgot about that hobby. I get reminded only during discussion here. My dance teacher lives in same place where my parents live. Will try to meet her and take the guidance how to continue. Thank you so much.


     
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    Rihana IL Hall of Fame

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    First kid of next generation in the family gets married, we (aunt/uncle) give a big gift (cash, as is the practice for gifts from close relatives). Also attend the wedding, even though the date is not a convenient one. Short solo trip of 7-8 days for one of us, including travel time. It is a very sentiment filled and poignant occasion. Some of the folks from our parents' generation are gone and sorely missed on the occasion. Our aunt or uncle who used to be the main organizer of all family functions is now much older, sitting in the front row while the next generation is running around for the arrangements. It is kind of funny to be introduced as the "aunt in-law" or "uncle in-law" : ) We stand taller, straighter, and try to look more dignified. : )

    Sorry for the long setting and background description. : ) Axshul question is:

    We later realize we overdid the gift thing. Got carried away by emotion and were attending a wedding in India after two decades! Didn't think ahead that similar value gifts will be expected in more weddings of the next generation. What is best course of future action? Give the big gifts (about 10 weddings that'd be). Cut down the amount, anyway only one wedding has happened so far?
     
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    Are you ok with niece/nephew 1 saying : I love aunt Rihana, she is so generous with her gifts , she gave me xxxx dollars for my wedding . And niece/nephew 2 :
    :eek: :confundio1: :weary:


     
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    Laks09 Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    BTDT - Subsequent weddings have in kind(jewelry) that can’t be valued easily. Of course if can be, but nobody has done it in our families. I have also given combined gift with sibling. Our sibs generally rein us in and say itna kaafi hai, isn’t it?
    Now we have one set amount for all from either families. And we make it a point to attend(one of us). Sometimes it’s really hard but still!
     
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    The value of gifts is always compared and talk about. Also more for girl and less for guy is acceptable by most. But you can go with your choice as even if they expect no one can come to you with the saying why less this time. For future occasions decide one amount and stick to that.
     
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    @Rihana,
    Speaking from personal experience, I made this mistake once and had a tough time escaping from it later.
    It was not for a wedding, but for our sibling's/cousin's kid's baptism.
    When the first kid was born, we all were so excited and emotional. Gifted something very expensive in gold and cash.
    That time we didn't realize the fact that there will be more kids in the family down the line. In fact, the family expands, and there will also be kids coming from H's family too ;)
    From 2011 to 2017, there are 15 kids in our close circle. 7 kids for us (me and siblings) and others are for cousins and H's siblings.
    At least 2 major gifts for each year, in addition to taking so much effort to attend to the events with family (again very expensive). Can't reduce the gifting amount, as it may be compared, criticized and invite a problem later.
    But, all were just my own perception and mental blocks only. No one bothers that much about what you have gifted to X some 7 yrs before, and expect the same to X's youngest sibling as well. No... not that way.
    This year, we had a tight finance situation, and I went on to gift some "normal" stuff" to my own sister's 3rd kid on her baptism.
    I didn't have to explain anything, but I did not see any difference in the way I and my gift was appreciated at the event.
    So, there is nothing to worry.

    Your gift may vary, but not your love.
     

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