problems after moving to usa after new marriage

This seems to be a game. They want dowry and more money. From their own words, they were looking for a rich bitch, not a simple girl from a decent family. Now they feel depressed and started blaming you and your parents for each and everything. This is a perfect example for manipulation. Whole issue is in their mind. I dont see any fault in you or your parents.

You may try to build up strong bond with your DH and ignore the rest. Do not drag unpleasant topics in your conversations. Do not force him to talk with your parents. Let it happen naturally. Keep a distance from in laws if they bother you. If you reach at a state where you cannot tolerate their behavior, seek legal help. In such situation, You may break this marriage. So think well.

 

It is better to check when the thread is posted. It was 2015 thread....
Hope OP solved her issues .....

 

So, trouble the DIL by keeping her away from parents, if you can't take out anger on one person show it on the other. Nice culture we Indians have. Maybe her mom did it on purpose, had she entered the house, they would have come out with a barrage of complaints, she wanted to avoid a scene. Why are the ILs so particular about that one incident, why can't they leave it and move on? Is it because they lost a chance to gripe about the marriage? What is with them having some reason to complain with the DIL? Always, the reason is marriage and other formalities were not conducted to their satisfaction. They were not treated the way they wanted to be treated. Problem is not with them, problem is with us, because we take it as "normal" and move on. Some things won't change unfortunately. When will we stop treating the DIL as an ATM? Anyways what does OP want? OP, you should realize that your husband wont entertain your parents the way you want him to, if you are very homesick, talk to him and go for a few days to your parents' house. Just don't expect him to talk to them nicely. For sometime, leave that aside and be happy. Fortify your relationship. Think you have taken up a new job and perform accordingly. If you are cheerful and happy, hopefully someday he will start responding. To remain cheerful, happy - don't rely too much on him, don't expect him to please anyone on your side, you too don't overextend yourself to please anyone as well, stay calm and balanced as much as possible, that will give you some respite.

Swt Charu, please leave this attitude, you are sounding like one of those proverbial complaining ILs, one cannot punish the DIL because they have a problem with her parents, she is a human being, not some cattle that they got for free, I am not saying there are no bad DILs, but this sounds so familiar - illtreating the DIL because she did not meet their "expectations", that's why parents check the background before marriage. People who expect respect should give respect, if they keep griping they won't get it, same with OP, if she gripes, she won't get anything.