Present Indian Marriages-upgrades Required To Keep Relations Smooth .

One more advice
Treat your girls as equal to boys. It is simple as that.
Eg: would you allow your son to adjust and compromise in someone's house by believing it will be fine one day?
Hell no. . .
You would think about his pride, his ego, this and that.
But when it comes to girls, you are fine to let her explorer her own luck with a bunch of strangers.
Girls too have ego and pride like boys.
No parents arrange a marriage for their son without seeking his opinion. But not many girl's opinions are counted.
Even if they opine, It is judged. That too by fellow women in their family.

Stop believing that your family's respect lies under the vagina of your girls.
Let them freely chose their life and make decisions be it marriage or divorce.
Don't force them to compromise because of your social pride

 

if she goes for love marriage , then also people says that her parents have taught her how to trap good boys, so that her parents dont have to find a groom.
if woman goes for arrange marriage and say no to JF, then also her parents are cursed that they have not given her sanskaar.
if woman goes for arrange marriage and say yes to JF, and gets nuclear after marriage if things didnt work out, then also people says that her parents had just taught her manipulative skills how to win H.
so i guess only one way is left that go for arrange marriage , say yes to JF, be there in JF until you commit suicide out of frustation, even woman who have committed suicide due to inlaws torture, i have heard judgements for them too - she was having anger issues, she didnt have patience,too selfish, she cant see anyone in the family even from one eye...hence committed suicide in anger.
and all things said by woman. No wonder, woman is enemy of woman.

 

This!

As someone who is yet to be married and who's parents believe that I have not done anything in my life to show for the last 33 years I have been on planet earth, I can say this - god forbid I get married to someone who makes life miserable for me, my parents will expect me to stay married because any marriage is better than no marriage/divorce/separation. Even today (as was years back), my dad will keep saying stuff life 'a girl's family should not have so much ego'.

Women from previous generations were stronger - my dad's aunt left her husband and lived with her brother as her mother in law was cruel to her and her husband didn't do anything about it. One grand aunt chose to love with her kids, some 30 years after marriage as she had had enough with her abusive husband. Another grand aunt and her husband left their marital joint family home and lived with my grandfather (my grand aunt's brother) because of issues with her in-laws - she didn't want to live alone and her husband contributed to the family incomes. Both my grandmothers are very strong women, my paternal grandmother especially will not stand one slight/insult.

Some ten years back, one of my aunts (mother's cousin's wife) wanted to divorce her husband - he was brazenly cheating on her and robbing money from her parents' business. He also had multiple civil cases against him for fraud and embezzlement. Most of the family didn't know how she could think this way and some openly voiced that this is the issue with today's educated and working women.

Why should I (or someone else like me) overcompensate just because I am educated and working?

 

Sometimes I feel education is used against women to make them more pliable, to manipulate them and to abuse them.

Consider these:

You are so highly educated. You should be able to adapt better (meaning we can do what we like being less qualified than you, we can be abusive but you should know how to be very accepting and polite in the face of all that).

Educated women today are so manipulative. (That means toe our line or we will conclude all your education has only ruined you. How dare you have any terms or conditions?) They are so demanding.

Education has made them very arrogant and aggressive. (How dare they have their own mind and protest against injustice)?

And finally if they complain: You are educated, why did you get married if you could not find someone who could satisfy all your conditions?

 

Yes,people wants to use woman's education only in their favor . ....peoole wants to use paycheck earned by woman, yet want her to be dumb , docile DIL inside of 4 walls of the house.....it came like a shock to them when they see education has changed women 's mind in women's favor too...
All the bulshit about educated woman is like a tantrum thrown by a toddler...

Education was given to women for extracting more and more from them, but it had benefitted woman immensely along the way . ...