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Pray for my friend's father!

Discussion in 'Bereavement' started by yams, Jun 15, 2010.

  1. yams

    yams Platinum IL'ite

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    Dear friends!

    very sorry to inform you all that my dear friend raji's father passed away this morning!
    even though he was in a bad condition we all tried a lot to recover him back!
    today i was to take to the temple! and just when i called her in the morning heard the news!
    and i don't even know how to convince her![​IMG]
    ponnadhum "saami saaminu kumbuda sonniyae de andha saami kaappaththalayae de!"( you asked me to pray to god and none has helped me out) nu she was holding me and shouting!
    and i was like really like hanging myself what to tell her?? what words to convince her?? all gods have went false![​IMG]
    those two (her brother and raji) when they were hugging themselves and crying we people there can't control our tears at all![​IMG][​IMG]
    no one is there for them here on to even convince!
    i said her we are there ma! but she said who will come like my father? at night i will hold him and only sleep! here on how can i sleep de? nu.i was suffering a lot in finding the words to convince her!
    but failed at last!:drowning
    i was with her the whole day and now suffering in fever then thinking about her condition![​IMG]
    please friends join us in praying for his soul to rest in peace![​IMG]
     
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  2. jayanaresh

    jayanaresh Bronze IL'ite

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    dear
    I understand your tension. even i cried a lot when my dad suddenly passed away. But later when i recovered from tension, i realised my dad never suffered and had a peaceful death.
    God likes all good people and takes them.
    Tell your friend ---- your dad is looking from top and he will feel bad and sad when he sees u crying....
    U r big enough - run the life and take care of all.

    Take care and we will pray for the departed soul
    Also for Raji family to God - to give them strength and health
    Regards
    Mrs.N
     
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    yams Platinum IL'ite

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    thank you dear!:bowdown
    thanks for the condolences!:bowdown yes you are right i will be always a moral support to her!
     
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    Yams, words cannot console your dear friend Raji when she lost her dearest dad !!
    I will yet pray to god to give Raji and her brother all the strength and will power at this moment of despair !!
     
  5. yams

    yams Platinum IL'ite

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    Thank you sudha!:bowdown
     
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    Yamini.... Its really painful for your friend and her brother to come out of this sorrow... but if you friends are the moral support behind them then they can overcome it.... My prayer to god to give her the strength to bear this.... May her father's soul rest in peace....
     
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    Thanks sandhya akka!:bowdown
     
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    Hello Yamini
    My deepest condolences to your friend and her family. It reminds me of how i felt when my father(a healthy and active man) passed away all of a sudden. One minute he was fine and the next minute he was gone.My Father and I were very close, he was my confidante, my best friend, my mentor, i just could not believe i am supposed to go on without him. Just like your friend i was very angry with God and infact was not able to pray for a while. In my opinion, Grieving is a process, one goes through anger then disappointment, sadness , frustration etc but then the human mind is very resilient so give your friend (and yourselves too!!) enough time to get out of the shock and sadness. No words or nobody can actually console someone who has lost a loved one, they need to go through the process before they can be normal.
    She is very lucky to have a friend like you, i know you must feel totally at lose of words and helpless, just be there for her to vent her heart out thats all she needs now. My best wishes to you.
     
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    Dear friend!

    thanks for such consoling words!really feeling relieved after reading your post!
    unique one! thank you dear!:bowdown
     
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    My Deep Condolences to Raji and her family.

    Even i have gone through this trauma one and half year back. My father was in good health and was watching cricket match with my brother. when the match ended, switched off the tv and went to sleep... all of a sudden he called for my brother and then...
    I was also going mad as i couldn't accept the fact that my dad who whom i saw three days back and was waving hands at me when i left the house after a short visit... I was angry, frustrated, depressed.... but after seeing my mother's condition, who was under severe depression... i was able to control my emotions..
    People who came for the funeral told us that it was good that he left the world peacefully without suffering, but at that time, i thought they were telling as they don't understand our feelings, but later on realised, how true their words were, especially when my MIL passed away four months ago. she was suffering from cologne cancer and was in hospital for one and half months and she suffered a lot and had a very painful death.... Now my family is also going through this trauma..

    I know that words can never console your friend Raji, Time is the only best medicine..

    I pray to almighty to give Raji and her brother, all the strength to come out of this painful loss..
    May his sole rest in peace.
     
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