Positive parenting

Though I don't post regularly in this site this topic made me do it. I am a mother of 3.8 years old daughter and these tips helped me.

Actually parenting is an art and it has to be mastered carefully.

1. Children tend to throw toys here and there and they make the house a mess. Other than yelling at the child and saying "you do it" , we should practice saying "why dont we do it" or "come, lets clean it together". Later they will learn to do it by themselves.

2. Regarding the daily chores like brushing and taking bath, all these needs constant reminders. They will take lot of time for completing it also. My daughter used to take lot of time for completing all these finally i decided to set alarm for completing the task. For example : 5 minutes for brushing her teeth. Before the alarm buzzez she has to be out. This will help them for time management also.

3. Children can be given small responsibilities. By completing it they get a sense of accomplishment. And they start feeling that they are also important in the family.

4. Based on their age task can be decided by parents. We can even put up a board for them. Example: Monday Task XXXX . Once they complete they can put a tick mark against the task. Trust me children dont like to fail, and completion of small task will also boost their confidence. If they dont complete it, talk to them and find out the difficulty which they have in the task.

5. We should allow our children to try new things. Its okay even if they fail. Lots of lessons can be learnt from failure. We should not stop them, because that will kill the childs curiosity.

6. When they fail dont keep nagging on that issue. When they suceed dont over praise them. Too much of any thing is bad. Never critise the child just talk about the task and leave it at that. We should understand that WE are also not PERFECT.

7. Last but not the least. TALK TALK and TALK to your child. This helps in building a positive relationship between the child and the parent. They should know that even if they are wrong there will always be a caring hands to HUG

 

Thank you, Charu.

 

Dear parents, I have a 2 year old son who is very sweet and easy to manage. There is just this 1 thing that he spills water whenever he gets a chance and happily says see I wasted water.. How do I change this habit? He otherwise listens to us when we say no.

 

Dear parents, I have a 2 year old son who is very sweet and easy to manage. There is just this 1 thing that he spills water whenever he gets a chance and happily says see I wasted water.. How do I change this habit? He otherwise listens to us when we say no.

 

Dear parents, I have a 2 year old son who is very sweet and easy to manage. There is just this 1 thing that he spills water whenever he gets a chance and happily says see I wasted water.. How do I change this habit? He otherwise listens to us when we say no.

 

Never say No to what they say or decide for them.. talk to them in friendly way about the consequences of both doing and not doing something. With this they will be able to decide for themselves what is right. They will learn how to make decisions. This will go a long way in their lives..

 

This is a great idea..he has reduced it now.. one of us is always with him and make sure he doesn't find something that he can spill..so it is passing by as you said..I should try the spoon and bowl trick with him..

 

My daughter is 2, and she does exactly the same thing every day. Seems this is the recent habit that she has copied from someone, and she enjoys that.
Instead of stopping her, I just let her do the water play outside of the house (at the car parking area). She is too happy when she is allowed a bowl and mug to sprinkle the water as she likes. I take videos of it, and keeps it as a memory.
If she does the same inside the house, I ensure i have a cloth carpet somewhere to absorb the water. What else could be done with small kitties like them?