pls.help me to decide correctly very urgent

Show the watch to your hubby and ask his opinion.

 

Two options, one ask his opinion as sumanrathi suggested but there is a chance that he may feel bad that you bought another similar watch to gift your dad. You can guess his reaction better that us here so decide accordingly.

What I would think best to do is to buy something else altogether for your dad. What to do with the watch remaining..not sure.

 

Hi Harun,

I feel that you bought similar gifts for two men in your life because they are equally important to you.

So why now have change of thoughts ? Do go ahead and give the gift you bought for dad also.
In fact have done that myself many times and told them both that they are equally most important for me .

 

i think you should give the watch that you got for your Dad.....

you might be thinking about your DH's feelings now, but once think of your and your dad's feelings that you kept in mind when you actually bought those watches.....

 

Would you be OK if the opposite happens, your H gets gift to you and your mil same thing? Also how are your H relation with your folks?

One suggestion, you can let H know that your dad liked the gift you gave to him that he was inquiring about it. So you feel that a similar watch would be a good idea for his bday. Ask his opinion. May be that way you will know

 

How about you give something else to your Dad this year and maybe next year give the watch to your dad. Hopefully, by next year, your DH will not be much into this watch and you would have gifted him something else for his next birthday.

 

I am sure most wives including me do not like the husbands gifting the same kind of stuff to the spouse and MIL/ SIL. But, about men, am not so sure. it might probably depend on the nature of the person involved.

Last year on the occasion of my cousin's marriage I was looking for a gift for her fiance online and found a watch. I liked it so much that I bought that and another very similar one for my DH too. But, once the watches arrived, I told about both the watches to DH. He liked them a lot, wore the one I bought for him and was happy to gift the other to the cousin's fiance.

So, if you think your husband may not have a problem, you can gift the watch to your dad, else go ahead with another gift..

 

Show the other watch which you bought for your dad to your husband and ask his opinion and tell him what you are thinking about giving this gift to your dad.

 

I second the opinion of not giving your dad the watch for his birthday and gifting something else. After a couple of weeks or a month, gift you dad the watch.

The normal process of when buying similar things for multiple people ( on a visit to a different place or store ) is that they need to be given to all of them on return and not to be saved for their special days.

The conversation will be, hey DH, I bought this for you from Delhi. I also bought a similar one for Dad. You can choose whichever you like and I will give the other to dad ( I am not advocating your DH do the pick, it could be the other way, no rules ).

Birthdays are special days for special people. Its not the gift but the thought which matters. From your dad's point of view, he is getting the same gift as his son-in-law and there is no novelty, no thought. From your DH's point of view, that he thought was special for him, which he got on his special day, is not special anymore.

If you have to buy ahead for special occasions, buy different things according their tastes. If not, give them immediately on return, just like you distributed the rest of the items.

So, after your dad's birthday, one day show your DH the other watch and tell him that you got another for your dad, but didn't present to him on his birthday ( with the reason mentioned above of course ). Then, you can give it to your dad.