Hello ladies, I’m here to ask you all a very wise suggestion on how to deal with the problem I’m currently facing in my life. I’m married (arranged) and currently studying my MS in US. I’m staying alone in the northeast of US and my husband is also in US on his H1B but in another city. It’s a forced marriage for my husband and until this day he is not interested in me. Year 2013 – 2016: Prior to our marriage, he was in love with a woman (a divorcee) for three years (lived together). My husband fought so much against his parents for their acceptance to marry her but they declined bcz she was a divorcee. But when my husband lost his job she called it quits and began a relationship with my husband’s best friend. Later that guy (my husband’s friend) got married to a girl his family chose and left this girl. But I heard from my husband that, that guy got married to a woman who weighs 80kg and came with a lot of dowry (that is why he accepted to marry her). As that guy was not very happy with his wife’s looks, he did not take her to US immediately and continued to sleep with this girl for almost one year until his wife’s family forced to take his wife to the US. At the end, as the wife came to the US, this guy left this girl and eventually she was single, lonely and depressed. My husband’s separation from his ex happened mid 2016 and our marriage happened beginning of 2017. My husband had no time to recover from his past and he rushed into our marriage. Year 2017: As this girl was alone, she started texting my husband three months prior to our marriage saying she regrets ditching him. She had pleaded my husband so much to take her back, but my husband has lost trust in her loyalty and decided to go blindly after his family’s choice for him (me). After I got married and went to US, he told all the above story that happened in detail to me. I felt bad for him and wanted to be by him as the strong woman he deserves for. However, here is the problem that started happening. This girl knew it’s a forced marriage for my husband and he doesn’t like me so much bcz of my weight issue. She continued talking to my husband even after our marriage uncontrollably and they even met for lunch often during office hours (my husband himself confessed these to me). This girl laughs at me for my weight issues and that I don’t earn and I’m a student (I read the messages from her on my husband’s phone when he was sleeping). All these happened in the first 2 months I was with my husband. He used to hate me and say that I’m not like his ex openly (looks and earning capacity). All her conversations with my husband were about how I’m not so good for him (earning and weight issues) and how she is good at both. Almost those 2 months it was hell bcz of her interference. She used to constantly call and text my husband even after our marriage. I fought a lot about this with my husband and he used to be very numb and one day he cried to me that it’s a forced marriage for him and he don’t like me bcz I’m very plump (68kg) and doesn’t look appealing. But he clearly said that, this doesn’t mean he likes his ex and wish to live with her, but its just that he is not happy with the way I look as his wife and so cant develop genuine love for me. He boldly said he is not attracted to me and trying his best to change his views and build a rship with me. I started studying in US and was only for four months with my husband in the same house last year. In that first 2 months, he never spent time with me or even came and sat next to me. We only went out together every week for grocery shopping and nothing beyond that. In the next two months, his mom came to US tried her best to separate me and my husband. His mom is very possessive about her son and doesn’t like me at all (God only knows the reasons – as she behaves like the typical cruel mil). In those two months as my husband and myself were already living in a studio apartment with his mother, there was no privacy neither a private moment to even talk to him one line. His mom used to scold me that my parents dint even give dowry to meet my expenses until I find a job in US. My tuition fees and living expenses are paid by my father. But his mom expect that bcz her son has taken a separate flat to live with me (earlier he shared a two bedroom flat with his male colleague), my parents are liable to pay 50% rent for that studio flat and also for my expenses when I stay with my husband. She doesn’t like her son spending his money for our rent and food. Once my bank card was stuck in ATM and I was in an urgency to buy a book for my exam. My husband ordered that on amazon and his mom made it as a big issue and scolded me. Later I gave that money to my husband in front of her. So, in 2017 I only spent 4 months with my husband in the same house without any love. Sometimes he used to scold his mom back if she scolds me, but sometimes he stays numb. 2018: I’m in my second year of my MS. I heard from my husband that his ex is going to marry someone she met on divorce matrimony, who also lives in the same city. He also said that his ex and the new guy have started living together and are seriously considering to marry. But here is the catch, this girl has not told to her fiancé about her past activities of sleeping with many men including deceiving her ex bf. I was delighted that finally my husband is going to move on and my prayers are coming fruitful. As she told to my husband that she is going to marry someone, my husband did not talk to her often as she did. But when this girl is away from US (she was in Singapore recently for a month on-site trip) and she has talked to my husband almost every day on skype (their conversation is almost 30 mins to max 1-2 hours, I have my husband’s skype pw and I logged in to find these details every day). She texts him there that she landed in Singapore, she is again starting from Singapore – like these minute to minute details. She shares everything with my husband. In fact she had slept with a colleague in Singapore on her business trip and had even shared this with my husband in text on skype. Althrough I see that she shares everything with my husband and my husband did not flirt with her in his replies at all. I feel very bad for the guy who is going to marry her as she is not loyal to him. But these days with her frequency in talking to my husband is much more in her fiancé’s absence and this is bothering me. She knew my husband is not moved on from her and doesn’t like me and I feel she is conveniently playing with his emotions. Now I really want a wise suggestion from you ladies. Is it a good idea to contact the guy she is going to marry and tell everything about her? (sometimes I feel to save this guy). Other times I fear my husband. Or is it okay to gently tell this guy that his fiancé is constantly disturbing my marriage (without revealing her past and Singapore details to him)? What should I do for that woman to stop talking to my husband? I clearly found that unless she initiates conversation, my husband never approaches talking to her. If she initiates, then he gets along and talks for too long. And her messages are all about how pity my husband is for marrying me and sex starved but how happy she is by finding someone right and still managing to sleep with other men without the fiance’s notion. I have asked my husband many times to stop talking to her and he says he doesn’t have any feelings towards her and that even in his wildest dream he wont think of marrying her for what she is. But bcz they spent three years together and its his first and only rship before marriage I think he is not able to stop talking to her. Please suggest me ladies. I really cannot concentrate on my studies and its hell to watch all this.