Planning To Divorce And Pregnant.. Please Advice Me.

I feel this is the only option in front of me if I am not considering divorce. What other suggestion do you give? How can I go back to their house when I or my kids dont have any security there.
Pls advice me if you feel there is any other better option.

Why is that a security issue for you and your kids if you get employed and your in-laws are supporive of you having realized what their son had done in the past? If you accept your husband for the sake of your children at sometime in your life, then, you need to accept his parents as well. I understand your anger which is justified. But if you decide to be with your husband for your children, your in-laws are ready to help, what is wrong in being with them? Are you suspecting their motivation is driven by shame in the society?

 

Blush,
I wish you tons of strength !
I agree with Rihana . You call the shots totally. Don’t get emotional and decide anything right now. Don’t disclose your pregnancy to husband or Inlaws.
Your inlaws worrying about their reputation is their headache. This should have zero impact on your decision.
If you get back with your husband you will have to insist on lifetime access to all his accounts/ phones etc. Your lack of trust and respect is whole another issue. Are you ok with a lifetime of living with a husband that you hate and do not respect ?
I am a mother to two kids. But I would still insist that you give your second pregnancy a good thought. If you are still sure definitely go ahead with it. But make sure you have the mental / emotional and financial strength to bring up two kids.

 

You lost your bearing because he cheated. So I can understand your need to set up a new place where you will not have to move out, lose your job etc if he cheats on you again.
Another thought is to differ your decision to until after your new baby is a year old. Let your husband move to your city. Give him access to your son and the new baby. Don't finalize anything during your highly vulnerable and emotional time. After having cheated on twice, you deserve this time to continue your pregnancy in peace. Let the higher power guide you when you finally make the decision.

 

Your condition is very vulnerable to take any decisions. it is very sad that this happened at this time. i am not sure where you are living. If you are in USA and a perm resident, it is whole different story. It is easy , though not a cake walk.

also you being pregnant, any major decision is not advisable.

 

how does she know things or he will change. sorry if you feel i am acting like a devils advocate.

happy married men do not loiter around. they have very clear patterns. money, career, drinks with friends , sports or movie, simple but predictable. some a extremely dedicated to family and kids. my H is now, he changed.


i am not sure, what to say. i always believe that there has to be a consequence for any improper action so it really imprints the other person that they will never do .

I have had a situation where couple of years back due to serious fight between me and my H and he hit me while supporting a female coworker. I asked him to leave the house with no contact with my kids. he was away for 6 months, it tore him apart and changed on what he wanted deeply. this happened almost 7-8 back.

 

Think practically and objectively , and decide whether you wanna proceed with the second kid.