Hi, The excess baggage from the past is haunting me sometimes and affecting my present. Background: Love marriage- tough time to convince inlaws but they finally agreed. We were in USA initially and had to go back during my pregnancy. At this time MIL would not give me food/delay my eating saying SIL should eat first/stop me getting food from outside....so on relating to me staying hungry. Hubby knew about this but did not stand up for me and so is the FIL. Later when BIL got married (arranged marriage) MIL since then talks sweetly to co-sister and her parents. Fast forward to this date. I'm dealing with this innermost thoughts now and would like to get some inputs from others here. Inlaws recently visited us and hubby asked/ordered me not to dig into the past and treat his parents well. I did this keeping their age in mind and didnt want them to return with bitter memories.MIL sinned in the past by not giving food to a pregnant woman. This haunts me so much I cannot forgive her or SIL (as she was also a party to it). During their recent visit, had my MIL been nice to me or my kids by her behavior, I would have let go of the past. But nothing happened. They had a gala time eating,visiting places etc. Hubby was ok if I didnt tag with them. All he wanted was his parents should be happy. SIL visited after some days and same routine continued. I was a silent spectator though I had that undercurrent going on in my mind. After they left (happily), my rage started with hubby that how come he did not support me then or now. I'm feeling that I was not given my due share of respect/love then or now. Co-sister keeps posting pics of her daughter spending time with my inlaws in various social media. I have disabled from all such accounts for my peace of mind. I have been watching videos on self -help but in vain. Maybe my expectation is that the two ladies should explicitly say sorry to me, only then this agitation would come to an end. But this is far from reality. Firstly, they do not believe that they did a wrong thing and secondly they have my hubby's support as he stands up for them. Some days, I feel like conferencing both ladies in one call and demand an apology but if I do that it will affect my marriage. I dont want to be 'mahaan' by projecting a calm self while agitated inside. I believe that hubby can sort this by being with me on the same page now by atleast agreeing to his people's mistakes and helping me out to come out of this. Whenever this topic comes up, he gets defensive and says nobody in this world can pacify me because I'm making it up. I work hard at my job and try to keep myself engaged by trying out new things, cooking healthy food, going for workout and passing some certifications to update my subject knowledge. Ok nothing is appreciated by hubby - he says you are good which goes without saying. I dont want him to take me for granted. My question is when and how will his people know about their mistakes? Who will do that and will I be able to see their reformed version anytime or just continue with that bitterness ? Please share your inputs.