Hello Everyone, I am a single woman, who stumbled upon this thread because have been in a difficult situation, and would appreciate some advice. I read some forums on this site, and found the advice of women here quite mature and constructive. About 1 year ago, I started speaking to a guy off of shaadi.com. Our profiles were made by our families, and it was our parents who exchanged our emails and phone numbers. We seem to get along great on phone. Professionally, culturally, and socially we were quite similar. After 3 months he came to visit me and my family with his mom. They liked us instantly, and we felt the same way. Him and I hung out independently while his mom spent time with my parents during the 2 day visit. I could tell from his interaction that he liked me, and I was very happy as well. Before he left, his mom confirmed and gave shagan. He then called me and asked for my hand in marriage. We then visited his family about 2 months later, and did a small engagement ceremony. He gave me a ring at the time. During this entire time he was extremely doting, and his mother was the sweetest lady I met. He kept asking me to set the wedding date before we did the ceremony which made me nervous because I had only met him once and had some doubts. But after I met him again, I was very happy and did not have doubts. I happily agreed to a wedding date, and looked forward to the day we would get married. Soon after, there was a change in his mother's attitude. She was still loving but became quite obsessive. She would call our house about 3-4 times every day. My mom would politely try to end the conversation, "Okay, I should go fix dinner now" or "well, it was a pleasure talking, I should go now," but she would keep talking. If my mom made an excuse like cooking, she would called in an hour saying "So how was dinner?" If she was firm, "Okay, I must go now, Ill call you over the weekend," she would become offended and make it clear "OKAY THEN,BYE." The situation would have been okay, except the MIL became more controlling. She mentioned to my mom that in her house girls must cover up (I cover up as it is, but I wore a dress upto my knees once when we visited...we live in the US and I didn't think it was a big deal). Then she mentioned that her elder daughter in law touches her feet 5 times a day, and hinted I should do the same. Next she called me and mentioned that I should probably not get a job once I move - I am a physician and this came as a shock to me as I have worked hard my entire life and her son would support me working. I let the above blow off thinking it was a generation and cultural gap. However, when all of this thinking was coupled to 5 phone calls a day to my family, things became quite unbearable. Once my mom put her foot down, and didn't call her back till the next day which made her very offended. She didn't call at all for 3 weeks for which we were greatful. However, then a big surprise happened. His family is Sikh and we are Hindu. Upto this point, past the engagement and setting of the wedding, this was never an issue (we decided to have both a Hindu and Sikh wedding, and both sides agreed that it would be a beautiful way to celebrate a union....alongside there were always talks that both religions preach the same ideas and only the traditions are different, and it will be beautiful to celebrate traditions of both sides). Soon after I mentioned to my fiance that his mom had asked me not to work and what his feelings were about the matter, he started bring up religion "Do you think our children will be confused because I am Sikh and you are Hindu?" "Being Sikh is a matter of pride, and I hope that is okay with you." I mentioned to him that I personally don't see a difference between the two religions and will be happy to be a Sikh, infact my dad is half-Sikh so I would never think somebody who is half-Sikh is confused to which he said "Yes I know...but then it would only be in name." Finally he stopped, but soon after his mother started hinting that "oh you should certainly have the Hindu wedding but have it the following week." Which left us confused because all the relatives would have flown out by then. One way or the other, the Hindu wedding would always come up. All of the above made me very confused and uncomfortable. Perhaps none would have been very big issues, but the fact that they were brought up AFTER the wedding date was set is what scares me. I feel the people are two faced. The MIL now have picked our display picture for the wedding, the color theme, and even my wedding dress. I am raised with traditional values, in the US. I never saw any of my cousins MIL's even in India behave like this. It scares me that my fiance talks this way about religion when he is a grown educated man - he is a physician.