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PushpavalliSrinivasan said: ↑

Dear Jaya,
As "charity begins at home" sacrifice also begins at home.
A mother from the time she carries the child in her womb starts sacrificing food that she loves knowing that it won't be good for the child. Even after the birth of the child she avoids food that will not be good for the child until the child weans out from mother's milk.

Any sacrifice should be voluntary and should not be forced on a person.

A quid pro cuo type sacrcrifice is not to be considered as a sacrifice.

"Sacrifice with regret is no sacrifice at all. True sacrifice is joy-giving and uplifting."
Mahatma Gandhi
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Thank you Pushpa for the wonderful response arising out of age and experience.Nice words.Normally parents never consider the pains for bringing up the children as sacrifice and they do it with pleasure.As times have changed I see that the attitude of parents also has undergone lot of changes and in many cases they look more selfish than their sons and daughters.It may be wrong, I don't know, to pass such a remark because we are also of the same age.But it is a sad reality in a few cases.Perhaps they are too precautious.
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Dear Jaya,
Nowadays younger generation who goes for higher studies to foreign countries do not want to return and gets settled there. Parents who sacrificed a lot to educate the children feel bad and Due to insecurity some parents become selfish.
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jayasala42 said: ↑

Dear Viswa,
A wonderful response giving various dimensions of sacrifice.That is Viswa.
Leave alone the great sacrifices of the great seers like Sankara, Mother Theresa and Nelson mandela; As ordinary common man, it is natural for any human being not to be criticised for the sacrifices, though he may not be honoured.Certain things are taken for granted in our society,I mean Indian society.You are expected to do so many things as a matter of routine,while there are more expectation and less recognition.I am reminded of a saying in Tamil" oru naalum podaatha sridevi thaan podavillai.Dinamum podum moo devikku enna vanthathu?" ( The great Mahalakshmi who never helps has not helped today also. Leave her.What happened to the Moodevi-the most derogatory abusive term-who gives alms daily?)

But sacrifice isn’t purely altruistic. The best definition of sacrifice is this: “To forfeit something for something else considered to have a greater value.” ). Sacrifice does not mean giving up something for nothing; it means giving up one thing for something else we believe is worth more.

This does not at all take away from the virtue of sacrificial acts. Instead of locating the merit of sacrifice in unselfishness, we can find it in a man’s chosen value system. The man who lays down his life for his family or for his comrades has chosen to place more value on their lives than on his own.

The law of sacrifice says that you cannot get something you want, without giving up something in return. In order to attain something you believe is of greater value, you must give up something you believe is of lesser value.

If you want to lose weight, you have to give up junk food. If you want to get ripped, you have to work out regularly. If you want the nice things in life, you have to work hard and save your money.

Sure, sometimes fame and good fortune seemingly drop into someone’s lap.

“A man, at times, gets something for nothing, but it will, in his hands, amount to nothing.”

This is the beauty of the law of sacrifice. Not only is it the only path to achieving your goals, but the path itself prepares you to handle life at the top. Sacrificing not only gets you to your goals, but hones and shapes you as a man along the way.

To reach your goals, you must move forward, which necessitates leaving some things behind. But the man who believes he can get whatever he desires without sacrifice tries to hold onto everything in an attempt to have it all. Instead of moving forward, he is stretched out horizontally and sitting on the fence.

The world class athlete or musician gives up time spent with family and friends for time spent honing their talent.
Today's topis is not about why sacrifice is essential but why certain sacrifices get un noticed .Parents are left uncared for; the brother or sister who took care is simply thrown away;Naturally, a question arises whether the goals of the sacrifice have been really achieved.Have they been successful in moulding the one whom they helped to a better person? In many cases the answer is in the negative.
All are not mahatmas to follow Gita" Karmanyeva Adhikarasthe,maa phaleshu kadhaachana".
What makes the receiver ignore such major helps and turn selfish?Is it too much to expect a simple recognition, at least in words, thought not a real reciprocation?
Shri Viswa may kindly enlighten.
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True.the only answer I see is too much sacrifice from a particular person is taken for granted by the people or person who get benfitted. Too much is always taken for granted. Too much love and affection is also taken for granted.

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It is not the first born's fault that his /her parents go on producing more cjhildren. I fail to see why he/she must bear the burden of the parents' inability either to practice birth control or control their desires.. Why should the sins of parents visit on the offspring.?

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One thing what I feel is too much sacrifice with no gratitude or return love from the benefitter or benefitters will make the sacrificer feel sad , sometimes depressed or lonely. Hope people start living their lives too along with supporting their loved ones. If a person happy and healthy then only he can support his or her loved ones.

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Balajee said: ↑

It is not the first born's fault that his /her parents go on producing more cjhildren. I fail to see why he/she must bear the burden of the parents' inability either to practice birth control or control their desires.. Why should the sins of parents visit on the offspring.?
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Very true.

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girvani said: ↑

Dear Jayasala amma,

The reality expressed in this post wrenched my heart. I have seen elders in our extended family did the same. At the same time, recently my colleague, Scottish girl, who has lost her father when she was 8 years old. She has an elder sister, younger brother and a younger sister. Her mom, alone brought all four of them so well. She battled cancer and now it has come back and it is worst. The youngest child just entered the university. But my friend, who is the second in the family is taken all the burden on her shoulder and she is a stage thinking whether to continue her studies (PhD) or terminate and go back to work to support her brother and the sister. Brother is in early twenties. As an outsider, I was thinking all four of them take responsibility and look after themselves as they are all above 18. But my friend feels that her brother and sister is too young and it is unfair and putting so much pressure on her shoulder. I am only praying for them. This situation hurts me so much. I was thinking what is right Dharma for her and so on. I also feel sometimes, some of us think that we have control over and we can manage and by doing so we can out our immediate family in life long trouble. This is where right knowledge helps. I am sorry , I don't have enough life experience to comment on this difficult subject but I would love to learn how to react and live when the situation comes in our own lives. I would love to know what is the right dharma on these instances?

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Hope once her siblings start working , they would take the responsibility of the family too. Her family is lucky to have her . hope things turn well.

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kkrish said: ↑

@jayasala42 ma'am.
Sacrifice is a noble act of selflessness.
It is because of the thousands of folks who sacrificed their lives in the freedom movement, that I was born in a free India.
When people benefit from their actions, it is not sacrifice.
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Dear KKrish,
Another valid point to reckon with.But how many of us think about this?whenever any mother talks about the sacrifice, children start retarting'don't give a big name 'sacrifice' to the ordinary duties of a mother'.
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Dear KKrish,
Another valid point to reckon with.But how many of us think about this?whenever any mother talks about the sacrifice, children start retarting'don't give a big name 'sacrifice' to the ordinary duties of a mother'.
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Oh, Is that how children speak back ma'am?
Well, changing times I guess.

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kkrish said: ↑

@jayasala42 ma'am.
Sacrifice is a noble act of selflessness.
It is because of the thousands of folks who sacrificed their lives in the freedom movement, that I was born in a free India.
When people benefit from their actions, it is not sacrifice.
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Dear KKrish,
Another valid point to reckon with.But how many of us think about this?whenever any mother talks about the sacrifice, children start retarting'don't give a big name 'sacrifice' to the ordinary duties of a mother'.

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