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New york life insurance co - ads----ruining nuclear families

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by invisible, May 25, 2011.

  1. invisible

    invisible New IL'ite

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    Am I the only one who finds New york life insurance ads featuring the joint family unbearably irritating. I seriously hope they stop airing these ads and ruining perfect nuclear families by putting silly ideas into our husbands heads.
    If any of you have seen these ads how did your dh react to them?
     
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  2. Spiderman1

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    Re: New york life insurance co - ads

    There is nothing wrong with joint family, per se. It works very well for some folks, it does not work for others.

    People should use their head and heart to evaluate their situation to decide on that.

    There are already existing threads on topics like JF vs NF -for more on the topic.
     
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    Re: New york life insurance co - ads

    woww...really???? so you get irritated with those silly ads??? if your husband has to feel bad or get some ideas into his head..are the ads only media??

    and also what are silly ideas as per you??? agreed all of us have some kind of inlaws issues but that doesnt make us , want a man forget his parents or siblings right?

    come on...chill and relax.....dont give your brain too much of crap to think about...be at peace..
     
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    JF is not a silly idea, invisible. JF may not work for you but believe me, there is a sector that still love it, including young women. Regardless of the few seconds advertisements, men/women who have been forcefully kept away from JF/NF will always have a void longing for the family system they crave for. Adv or no Adv is not a solution. JF is a great system. It is unfortunate that sometimes the participants in the system do not play fair. With the right amount of patience, maturity and sensible people, JF rocks.:cheers
     
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    Thats a good point. Since some ppl seem to think its an oldies exclusive.

    But - all this will be case by case - so we cannot generalize which is better JF or NF.
     
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    I have not seen the ads as I don't live in US, but I am sure in US, JF doesn't mean man, wife, kids and man's parents. It could also mean man , wife, kids and wife's parents.
    I am just guessing you are worried about the idea that your DH might have of having his parents live with you. It could be your parents living with you, but I guess it is unlikely.
     
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    Living in a joint or a nuclear family is a huge decision influenced by many personal factors. Ads is definitely not one of them.
     
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    Does watching Brokeback Mountain make you want to become a gay cowboy? Does watching Chandni Bar make you want to go out and become a dancing girl? Think.

    Media and advertisments tell a story or give ideas. But nobody is going to act on those ideas unless the idea is already there inside them. If your dh has always longed for JF, obviously an add showing JF will pull at his heart strings. And the happiness they show in JF isn't a sham... it's real for many people. Maybe it doesn't work for you or me, but it works for some people. And when I see the adds, I think to myself hey, at least it's nice they're showcasing something from Indian culture. As for my dh, he is not keen on the JF so to him it's just another advertisment.
     
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    Some women feel that their PILs are unwanted baggage . Maybe they have similar feelings for their own parents too.
    They make mandatory visits at marriages and funerals and love living their own lifes , but at delivery time the oldies HAVE to help.
    Some even send their babies to be reared by oldies.
    They also think that they will always remain young and never grow old.
     

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