need to give jewellary to in laws after childbirth

What custom is this? :bonk
They should be bringing gifts for the baby.
If they are crass enough to keep asking get them 1-gram gold. Don't let yourself get pressured into this.

 

WHAT ? Why will you give for your baby ? She should be giving gold and silver as 'Auntie'.. for your baby..

 

This is a very new custom. Usually in-laws are supposed to gift gold to the child. Please try avoiding giving some or the other reason. You can say gold donation is not recommended in my horoscope or something like that.

 

SIL is supposed to give the first anklet for the baby in south indian custom! You dont have to give anything!!

In the north I think, your inlaws and DH will give you something as a thank you for the baby !!

What's this new custom??

 

ha ha ha.. Rather. .According to horoscope ,not recommended to give Gold to SIL in particular..

 

Such customs require such responses.

 

This is a north Indian custom. No, in-laws never have to give anything in North, always the DIL or her family. OP- just tell them, you don't follow these customs as SIL won't be taking care of your baby. In old times, SIL (married) used to come for 3-4 months to take care of her brother's wife and newborn, hence gift of gold for all her hardwork. Anyway, you can talk to your DH about it and let him handle the issue.

 

@nuss

This is the first time I am hearing of this custom. Guess there are many more strange customs I am not aware of.

 

Say sure, I will give gold. As Malstrom suggested, give them one gm gold. Any complaints afterwards can be dealt with a firm, we are saving for our baby now. He/she is our top priority.