We live in US, in-laws spend 6 months in US and 6 months in India. When in-laws are in US, they rule the house, while giving a free reign to my husband (as is natural of in-laws). When they are in India, my husband keeps calling my in-laws and showing my kid to them on facetime, several times (at least 4 times EVERY day). It's like he wants them to be literally 'present' in his/their life. It irritates me excessively. I am never really free to play with my child, shuttling between cooking and getting her to eat/sleep/bathe. And the moment I am done getting LO ready, he calls them on facetime..and I scuttle to the kitchen. It is not harmless playing - MIL has opinions and will keep telling/teaching H to do this/do that for her. And that obviously trickles down to him telling me to do something, or posing it as his own idea. I dislike this heavy interference. And if I say let me do it my way, he will retort can't he have a say too with his child. And then I would say you are the one having all the say anyway. MIL n FIL know every single thing that happens here - from what is cooked, what is eaten, what is done, what is not done, whether we go out, where, for how long.. they know every damn thing. Even if H sometimes misses any details, MIL will ask about it. Its as if she constantly keeps tabs on us, and I feel as if... what I can't take care of my child otherwise, huh? It's like she's checking on us, ensuring everything is alright, her son n grandchild are well fed and taken care of etc.. and of course, she/they need to know everything H/LO do....everything is shared with them..to the level of the details of grocery purchases made here! H behaves as if they go to India on vacation and need to be kept up to date with everything. And H is not even the only child!! In-laws are similarly intensely involved in the lives of their other children too. Don't ask me how they do it. I am extremely uncomfortable with this level of involvement in our day to day lives. H is however a parent worshipper, and there is no question of drawing a boundary line. Is there any way of dealing with this sensibly? When they are here in US, I inadvertently end up toeing their line (have been trying to change that - its a work in progress, as quite a few here would know). Why do they need to have so much involvement even when they are 'not here'?! Also, my parents are barely in the picture - both are working, and their commitments keep them very busy, and we struggle till date to manage our schedules and time zones to have a decent chat regularly. It's a fallout of H deciding to settle in US, and source of great resentment and angst for me - that my family barely gets opportunities to even spend time with my child or me, or us with them.. This makes things worse. "Just accept the differences; don't compare parents' and in-laws' opportunities" - Easier said than done.. "Be grateful for the attention your child is getting" - I am, the issue is not that but the excess attention all other things in our/my life gets - too much involvement.. BTW, I am not disrespectful, isolating or uncaring.. but I need space and find this suffocating. Ideal thing would be to get H on board - like that's going to happen, this is his utopia. I know this is a usual problem, and I thank you for patiently wading through my vent... Is there anything I can do to overcome this?