Need some advice friends

Myththangavel · Feb 20, 2012

I am 25 yr female.... I have been married for 2.5yrs. we r trying ttc on the first day onwards... After marriage we came to US... My period is regular but after coming to US it got irregular... So we went to doctor and she told because of climate change it got irregular.. and also i put some weight after marriage... after 6 month my periods got regular... sometimes during my periods the whole 5 dyas i felt stomach pain.. so we went to gynecologist and he took ultrasound and it came out nothing is wrong...but doctor suspect may be it because of endometrosis... he told endometrosis also reason for not geting pregnant.. he sugest laprascopy.. we did the surgery on apr2011... after surgery doctor told i removed the endometrosis scars and no cyst, fibroids, no fallopian tube blockage...So he told to try naturally... After 4 month i got prgnant on sep 2011.. but on 6 weeks i had a miscarriage... doctor told blighted ovum... After miscarriage we r trying but till now no luck... This year may 2012 we r going to india... This doctor told u dont have any problem so try naturally and u will get pregnant.. but he will not suggest to do any blood work and hormone tests... so i'm worried whether to continue this doctor or see some other fertlity clinic or wait till go to india and see doctor in india... because maximun 5 months only we will be here in US... pls friends give some suggestions i'm confused... Till now we didn't visit any fertilty clinic.. we went to gynecologist doctor only... So we try naturally or go to some fertlity doctor or wait till go to india.. Am i wasted so much time not going to fertlity doctor?.. pls friends give some suggestions.. waiting for your replies...

harikamahesh · Feb 20, 2012

Hi,

Better take second opinion or else wen u cum to India consult a good dr who is very well known to ur family or friends. Share this with ur mother or any one whom ur close with. They may suggest u sum better idea.

Myththangavel · Feb 21, 2012

Thank u so much harika for ur reply....I told to my mother... She also told me come to india we will see some doctor here... But i feel like i wasted so much time not consult a fertility doctor... My husband also not interested to try a new doctor here... if i am asking him that doctor told everything is fine but why i'm not get conceived... He usually tells that there is time for everything... so dont feel like that... Already 2.5yrs gone and is it ok to wait another 5 months and consult a new doctor in india?...

tanoshii · Feb 21, 2012

Myththangavel,

TTC takes time dear. There are so many factors involved in it. Yours and your husband's contribution is just one part of it. So don't worry. Give it time. Your husband too seems very understanding.

Its good that you are going to India in a few months and you can take care of things there. My friend recently moved to India for her treatment and her plan was very effective. To start with ask your mother (if she can) to find a good doctor and ask her to take the first appointment and visit the doctor with your reports. You can call her while your mom is with the doctor in case she needs more information. This way you can know the next course of action. If necessary and possible, you can go there a few days in advance and start with the tests and procedures. By the time your husband joins you, your results also would have arrived. Its a basic procedure these days to get the man also tested and their test/results get done on the same day. So without loosing time you can start on something while you are there with your husband.

My friend did this and she's been able to use her time there quite effectively and is now on the next course of action without delay. It does help if you can stay there for a little extra time and see how things go.

Normally in the UK we are expected to meet up with a fertility specialist if we've been trying for more than a year without any positive outcome. But until you get yourself fully checked, there's no telling if you really do need a fertility specialist. Besides you have conceived once last year and its been just about 5 months till now. Just cool down for now and keep trying. Its just a matter of time. You can set the ball rolling by then and see how things go..

Myththangavel · Feb 21, 2012

Hi Tanoshii thank u very much dear... After reading ur reply i got relaxed... Actually we r going to settle in india(Bangalore) ... So we have lot of time there... My husband also did the sperm analysis last week... we r waiting for the result.... My husband is very supportive... My mil not asking me y no good news... But she asks my mom like she got her period this month like that... MIL told to my mom that if i asked means she will feel hurt... u r her mother u ask means she will not feel bad... But my MIL think inside for me not getting pregnant...she is expecting i will tell some good news.. But i donno when i will going to give her some good news... This is mainly bothering me...

jogu07 · Feb 21, 2012

Myththangavel said: ↑

Hi Tanoshii thank u very much dear... After reading ur reply i got relaxed... Actually we r going to settle in india(Bangalore) ... So we have lot of time there... My husband also did the sperm analysis last week... we r waiting for the result.... My husband is very supportive... My mil not asking me y no good news... But she asks my mom like she got her period this month like that... MIL told to my mom that if i asked means she will feel hurt... u r her mother u ask means she will not feel bad... But my MIL think inside for me not getting pregnant...she is expecting i will tell some good news.. But i donno when i will going to give her some good news... This is mainly bothering me...
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Hey gal,

cool it and chill...dnt get tensed as it would effect your hormonal balance and it might be one of the reasons for not able to conceive...Pls b calm, relax and have a positive frame of mind during TTC, u do what u can and leave the rest on the Almighty, I am sure u ll succeed sooner than expected....

Good luck to u and baby dust to all ladies in TTC....

tanoshii · Feb 22, 2012

Hi dear,

Like Jogu said, you try and relax. What your MIL or any other person thinks can't really speed up this process. In fact it only seems to have the opposite effect. Your cycles do get affected by every little stress and tension.
I read in a book recently - our INTERNAL PLUMBING has a lot to do with out WIRING in the brain. Got to keep the latter cool to get the former to go on smoothly too

There is quite a lot of information in the forum about doctors and clinics in various cities. Look for one that you can visit from where you are going to settle. Start with the treatment when you can and just leave the rest to God.

Myththangavel · Feb 22, 2012

Hi jogu and tanoshii thanks for ur suggestions... yes u guys r correct always think about that and worrying not give anything good... so I am trying to relax and take it easy and try without tension.... Anyway we r going to India... so I decided to enjoy the last few months here....