Its a long story..pls be patient and read and give me one solution. I got married March2011.Mine was Love marraige.After a long struggle we got married.My husband native is near trichy.After my marraige, my in Laws with their divorcee daughter(sister in law) were staying with us(Chennai). For that particular reason,we avoid honeymoon trips and general outings and everything.Very rarely we all our famiy members used to go outing like cinema and shopping. Now my sister in law got married(Second marriage).I thought after her marraige i can live my life as i wish.But living life as our wish is not that much easy.Always my MIL asked to me to go their native to see their other daughters and daughter's children and their relatives.They forced us to do that.If we explained that we are busy with our works,we cannot put leave and we have to take rest in avialble time,always we cannot travelling here and there....,but she didnt realise and started to cry and shouted to my husband that if he wants her mother he have to go to native.Then we travelled there,spent time there and come back and start our regular routine life.This happens many times and my husband becoame ill.For this my In Laws explained that previous native trip was done in bad time(Ashtami,navami) so he have to travel again in good time.So we travelled again. Before marriage we used to go beach weekly once and cinema and temple everything.Now we two cannot go,if we ask them to come they will tell thats waste of money.For every thing they will tell this place is not good,this vegetables are not good,chennai is not good place like that.At one point i get totally frustrated.Totally my mind gone mad. And soon i started to think that i made a mistake that i married him. Even my MIL dont open her mouth to ask about our future,about our children paln. Always she talk about their daughter,how ther are living,what we have to do for them...etc.. As im educated i can think that family life is very differnt to bachelors life and we cannot ask my in Laws to go to native.because they are old and they want to live with their son.We are in rented house which is very small.We cannot afford big house because we both have loans already. Continously it happens the same way ,even i could not spend time with my husband. After my marraige totally i missed my happiness,my bevaiours,my routine works.. everything. Here I dont know how to proceed and solve this problem.I dont know whether the mistake is on me or others. My confused thoughts are 1.Actual problem is me ... May be im over reacting and over expecting from my husband. 2.Whether my husband really dont love me or He is afraiding of his parents. 3.Whether my in Laws cannot understand our feelings or Purposly they are doing like this. Here i cannot change them but i can change my mind.. Give some solution to change my state of mind.