Hi, It has been years since I was here last and I always loved the support of the lovely members here. I am not sure sure if this is the appropriate forum, if not moderators please move it to the correct place. Here goes. I have a good relationship with my In-laws .My MIL has always been supportive and a non-interfering type and let us build our life on our terms. She was a working woman, but managed her family really well at the same time and she has 2 sons (BIL and my husband). This thread is about my MIL's health issues and how its affecting our family. She has had health issues in the past - Diabetes, BP, Rhumatoid Arthritis, Osteoporosis and more recently she was hospitalized for Hyponatremia and also underwent a spinal surgery. However all her medical conditions are under control at the moment. She has been unwell for the past 4 months and has been having health problems one after the other and understandably is depressed about the same. We have taken her to a Psychiatrist and is on medication (SSRI). Also she has had chronic insomnia for years and always used some doctor prescribed medication or the other for sleep. The problem is she is not finding any relief from the medication she has been taking and has a strong belief that she is not going to get better and has a totally negative outlook on life. We have all tried talking to her, put some music, bring her magazines, try meditation sessions with her , etc but she is totally switched off and not interested in anything other than her health, medicine dosage and pain . Although she is suffering from some residual pain from her spinal problems , we have consulted the doctors and are following up on care for her, she feels she is already broken all bones and doesn't seem to believe that she will recover and get back to her previous health status. This seems contradictory to all the tests and seems to be psychological issue. Also she has trust issues and feels that she will be abandoned by her family including my FIL. However, my FIL has been her primary caregiver with support by all others in the family. Also she keeps pestering us to go and leave her on the road which is totally upsetting all of us and how much ever we tell that we will continue to care for her no matter what she is not reassured. This is also taking a toll on my FIL who has been a rock so far and has started to feel dejected. She understands she is having mental health issues but she is not willing to talk about it and feels that it is disgrace if its known to outsiders that she is having such issues. However no -one other our immediate family knows and we don't share such confidences with any outsiders. We are totally at our wits end on how to handle this and how to make her feel her importance in our lives and bring her back to normal. Please pour in your suggestions / advise on how to handle depression in senior citizens. It is very painful for us to see her like this from being a super efficient woman who can handle all issues singlehandedly to see her now with no reason to live. Sorry for the long post.