Shruti ...my post was in general about trying to please abusers to keep peace or to get on their better side. As for Op..this is not her first thread.There are many other threads that indicate that she is neither in a very abusive marriage,nor is their life so imbalanced against her. They are an educated couple and she is financially independent who seems to have enough say in the matters of her home (as per her other threads). As for Ragini...she doesn't believe in grey or a middle path .It is either shut up and take **** or take divorce. If only taking either was as easy.