My Life So Far...:(

Sri2196 · Jun 30, 2017

I dont have any advices to offer but i wish you all the best for your future endeavours

amunique · Jun 30, 2017

BDivya said: ↑

Hi @amunique : First of all to start with- for financial support u can initially start to work in any schools/play school..from which u can earn as a start.. and u can parallelly search for MNC and focus on losing weight.. remember all these cant be achieved in a day.. it will take few months, but after that u will be a confident person with a job and salary..may be u can search for another alliance that time!!

for start u HAVE to meet ur financial needs FIRST, so get urself into any small /medium job in ur local area-like a school, etc.. and once u get hold of ur routine, life, the megre salary u yourself will feel motivated to search efficiently for a better mnc job..

and to lose weight, u can tallocate seperate time for all the tasks.. u just have to keep doing exercises/yoga reguraly and dont care about the results.. just keep doing for a month..then look into mirror and u will find a difference..

dont worry try to keep urself happy and going..then later u ll eventually be happy pray to god, he will help u

once u get any job in ur local area, file a divorce(if u really dont want to live with ur H) because once u file a divorce and proceed wth it, ur H will have to pay u as a part of dicvorce -alimony.. so this money also would be helpful for u..

just pray to god and be strong
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Dear BDivya,
Thank you so much for such encouraging words.
the idea of taking tutions is good,but since i am living in my grandparents place,though they are not there now physically, there is so much reputation that they have built, my grandfather,mom's father was a veterinary doctor.and the house which they lived, they gave to me (they stated this while they were alive) so there are tenants too upstairs (tenants-my mom's sisters' flats) who take tutions. so i think i cant take this option as this would be very degrading to the departed souls.
i dont look this as mean but here in this place alone,(which is more like a town) hope you get me.
i did plan to take up extra opportunities like teaching once i am in a different place doing my job as usual.
so this is my situation outwardly appearing rich but inwardly
i did search any options if available online but i could not find genuine ones till now.
you took your valuable time to suggest me an option but these are the difficulties i am facing practically.

amunique · Jun 30, 2017

ashneys said: ↑

Less will power, lower self confidence n esteem along with all the negative thoughts and memories, and lack of proper support and maybe a mild depression is pushing you down on this path. That's why though you 'feel' you want to do, you can't stick to 'doing' it.

Don't let it over power or control you. Remind yourself that you are the boss. It may seem impossible now but when you see the changes after a mountain of hard work, you will be ecstatic. N all the less-low- no-negative will become more-high- yes- positive.

Am suggesting a few options for you to try out...

You are just 32 and have your whole life ahead. Join courses if possible and make similar aged friends. Keep any negative people away from you. You don't need their negativity in your life.

Start small, in 24 hours,
Take 3-6 hours for preparing for interviews
Take another 3-6 for walk, yoga, healthy food preparation
Rest of 12-18 hours, do whatever you want. Initially just try to stick to that 3-6 hours schedule and slowly increase.

A few professional options:
Take that 3-6 hours every day to look for jobs online, call consultants, companies.
Look for new opportunities, may not match your qualification but something that interests you. Some opening says any graduate with zero experience are also ok. Pick your interest.
Learn new stuff online
You can take home tuition for your neighbourhood kids as it will give you some money in hand, kids can bring in energy into the house and elevate your mood, it will give you some start to change your mind and your home environment.

A few options for your Health:
Avoid eating any junk, oily, sweet food. Don't even buy it.
Stop eating when not hungry.
Drink water whenever you think you are hungry.
Reduce the quantity of food. Have a small bowl to measure, eat only one bowl at a time. If hungry, eat one more bowl after one/ two hours.
Go to the local shop / market nearby to pick groceries. Walk. Carry.
If your mom can help, ask her to help with chopping vegetables. Or You can keep chopped vegetables ready at all times in the fridge and you can just cook it everyday, not the healthiest option but better than reaching for a packet of chips.
Keep banana, guava, raw carrots, cucumber sticks to eat as snacks. Cut it n put in a box n keep next to you.
Walk for atleast 30-60 minutes everyday, n slowly start doing it once in the morning and once in the evening.
If yoga is possible, it's a better option too.
If you like to dance, go to your room, turn on music and just enjoy.
Just keep doing everyday and soon you will start to notice the difference.
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Dear ashneys,
Less will power, lower self confidence n esteem along with all the negative thoughts and memories, and lack of proper support and maybe a mild depression is pushing you down on this path. That's why though you 'feel' you want to do, you can't stick to 'doing' it.
you just nailed it.

And yes, i was striving, but did not give in my 100 percent till date, and now with all the positive wishes, i will by God's grace will re-start all my attempts with persistence.

and for the home tutions thing,i am unable to consider that option given my situation at present but i really dont know how i am going to survive financially. i just gave it a thought that i should join even if its a fresher job and can support me by doing part times..
i was not lucky to find any other sources..

amunique · Jun 30, 2017

Thank you sri2196

Upscale · Jul 6, 2017

You can even start taking tutions for the children nearby...this is a good time as schools have just re-opened

amunique · Jul 6, 2017

@Upscale
yes but due to various reasons cited in my previous replies, i am unable to consider this option. thanks!!

kalcandu · Jul 6, 2017

I have no suggestions or advice to offer but would like to say that I pray to God for you to receive some positivity soon in your life. Good luck.

amunique · Jul 8, 2017

Thank you so much @kalcandu

amunique · Nov 5, 2019

Update: I have filed for divorce in the month of july and since he did not appear even for once, it is exparted.
I am awaiting the orders soon.
its going to be 5 years nearly so the lawyer is saying that no complaint can be filed now for the return of gold/household things that he ran away with. i am not knowing what to do now.
any inputs please. kindly suggest. the lawyer is also saying that alimony/maintenance is also not feasible now though we file, he will not turn up and we need to attach any of his property related details etc which i do not know.
i am not knowing whether i am going in the right way, i dont have any support from my father (he is been that way since my childhood) so really dont know what to do.. not able to see a fraud going away simply like that..