I live just 50 miles from an International airport, off late my house became transit center for people coming from India and traveling internally in US. It all started when one of my DH's friend got delayed in airport for another city flight 1.5 years ago. The friend called told (dint 'ask') my dh should pick him and he would stay there until weather clears for his flight. He came stayed a night and day. As he had jet lag from long flight from India, I cooked full 3 course meals with coffee tea snacks what not. Me and Dd just landed 3 days ago for the first time US , though DH had set up the house. I was so stupid with my jet lag I went on doing seva for him atiti Devo bhava. Which back fired me now, firing me actually. This friend now thought instead of direct flight to his city from India which would cost little high, he started telling others friends of DH ( kind of close aquitances) that whenever they want to travel to or from India they can happily come and stay here. Intially I thought how much travel hardly yearly once. So dint take heavily. Then started the issue Almost 2 months once someone would call to pick him or the family. Stay a night eat well and take a rented car to their city or flight, which costs less. This became a routine. Pick up drop to airport. Now from the month of Feb my Dh drives almost 2 times a week to airport to pick friend's friend, kind of "dhoor ke rishtedhar ke chacha beta, Nani ka mama ka bhaitja, ones.. That friend of my Dh is so manipulatative and gets things on his type. He thinks we have oblige him as he helped my DH when he came here for the first time (only once he booked one cab to DH hotel) The so called friend travelled twice and we thought he won't come to stay again, but we were wrong he came to stay with his family and asked us to drop to airport. Then the Friend brought his friend's parents for the same purpose. This time I could not show irritation to elders. Though had a big fight with DH. Now 1 week back the Friend came from India stayed for a night saying rented car is cheap option than inland flight. With jet lag he can't drive, hence staying up. I cooked aloo paratha, served with raitha and pickle the friend commented "oh simple meals" . I said yes. Then he said he can't sleep in couch in living room demanded my Kid's room, like last time time. Before that when he came with his family we gave our bedroom. I told him kid doesn't like anyone in it's room though kid sleeps in our room too. I went inside our bedroom. He frowned, said ok. I could see dissatisfaction. He complained of harder couch. Next day morning, I made pongal chutney by 9 am. He got up said " I'm hungry good to see simple break fast". I dint ask him to eat, told DH this is last time. Again for lunch made elaborate meals, sambar rasam curry and fryums. He said though the food is good, i like curries with more oil. I dint acknowledge nor asked him to eat. He ate with hubby. All the times he visited don't wash his plate or puts in sink, irritated me more, as I wouldn't wash anyone's plate. ( May sound silly) Finally he left. This his 4 ( to n fro 8) visit in a year. I'm totally pissed off with him. Also his friends why should I be a cook or is my house a transit place? Had a huge fight with husband now. My points are 1. Will the friend's wife show same courtesy to us? Answer is NO ( That's another big story when we visited for a day, they don't offer tea or coffee) 2. To airport up and down it's 85 miles, will the Friend do pick up or drop for us getting permission from boss? Again it's NO. He would say it's costing half tank gas. Why should we spend so much on gas? Unnecessarily 3. Plus their friends staying for night. Will they do for my friends or relatives? No again How to tell my husband they are using as transit place... They won't reciprocate same if we do to them? I fought cried... Nothing happened as this Friend is childhood friend same school same college type. The friend calls only a day before of letting us know about thier stay, which I feel should be well advance noticed, no one would book flight just 2 days ago What I did this time, 1. Didnot tell the person to eat. 2. Dint tell them sleep in Kid room 3. Made simple meals in good quality and quantity. 4. Subtly made them understand I don't like you guys coming ...When he said will see soon. 5. Told we had other plans for the weekend... 6. Once I really had fever, kid had fever They came for transit service. What else I can do? P.S sorry for the long post. I really don't know how to avoid such people. Thinking to tell them on face, if they were my friends I would could do. Moderator pls move to Indians in USA forum if you find this post in more related to it.