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I am honestly following most of your points. Not just half an hour but I have nearly 4-5 hours where I will be for myself and seriously I enjoy this space, regular workouts have become a part of my daily activities, I pamper myself in the beauty parlours once in a month.. thanks for the reminder... yes we should live with dignity.

 

well good info for all ladies

 

I was thinking of a thread about this. It is about me losing everything in the process of becoming a housewife. I was a smart student and earned degrees from reputed institutes. I got married to a very highly educated and well behaved person who allowed me to finish my studies and join him. He insisted on me staying with him and not looking for jobs in India. I complied being a young wife and also the was my urge to be with my DH. I was soon confined to home. It is not that my DH is against me working but I could not land good jobs in such an atmosphere with little work experience I was a nobody. I found a job and started working. My DH was not encouraging me to work but he never opposed it. I soon found myself in hot water as I fell sick. My DH took care of me well and I recovered in due course of time. By that time all my intellectual self was dying a slow death.

I got pregnant and that was the death knell. I was pampered and loved but I was given a regime which sadly didnt include working. I gave birth to a baby boy and I have been looking after him and my DH. Though we moved to India, I didnt have much opportunity to find job mainly because of my DH's insistence that "there will be no one to take care of the child" and "cant leave him with baby sitters" attitude. I dont certainly dislike my DH. I in fact love and respect him. I have a free hand on finances and I can spend as I wish. I can use his credit card and salary account. I have freedom to do anything and my DH isnt much of a control freak.

But then I am a nobody. One fine day if my DH leaves me I will be totally undone. I know he will never leave me but still I harbour that kind of a fear inside me. My DS is still a small boy. I do leisurely activities and other social activities but not regular work. For my education, I need to be working somewhere but I cant look at myself now for I am a nobody.

 

Very nice points sudha, thanks for sharing.
In fact I really agree that mostly women loose their identity in trying to be a good wife, mother and dil. In fact in many cases I have seen in my close relatives that for many women their life revolves so much around their kids that when kids grow up and want to spread their wings , the women feel suddenly they have nothing in their life and this in turn leads to competition with their dil or snil for their kids attention. If the same women had some life of their own and had realization that they have a identity beyond someone's wife or mom they would be much happier and at peace with themselves.
Somehow the mentality is such in our society that a woman thinks bit about herself she is considered selfish, the role of a ideal sacrificing , living for others woman is too hyped and its high time to change it!

 

thanks for sharing the useful & valuable points.

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