Hi, I am currently pregnant and baby is due in 2 weeks. My mother came here, to the US, mid-November to be with me. Ever since her marriage to my father, they have always been together, never ever apart. I always felt bad trying to have mother come stay with me leaving him, but he cannot visit me since he still works. I also have a younger sister who is an undergraduate student. DH and I were married 3 years and wanted to wait to get a baby since I am busy trying to finish up phD. But F and M always used to call me on the phone and pester us to have kids (we took it in the right spirit because we ourselves didn't want to delay having babies-since it is not good to be post-30 and what not). So, I finally conceived and M promised she would come take care of the baby until I finish. MIL and FIL although never ever 'told us' to have babies, are more than happy to come stay with us and look after the baby (they r retired and have no other obligations). Now, my mother reached US on a night and the very next morning I found her crying when I woke up. From the time she came here, she has been unhappy and missing my father. My father also currently looks very tired (no mom's cooking) and is suffering from some sort of limb pains. I know it is selfish of me to expect M to stay without complaining, but come on- we agreed on this. DH and I always take extra measures to make her happy. I come home early (although I am super busy), I take her out all the time (although my tummy feels like it is going to explode)- I enjoy being with her. Today we called up my grandmom (dad's mother and my mother's MIL) in India and she said that dad is miserable without mom and that my mom should come asap. I got super upset at this and told my M that there are other parents here who come alone and are happy to help out their children and that it was a big mistake to listen to her and deciding to have a baby. I feel terribly angry at her and my father (both maintain the stance that they want to help out). Now she wants me to change her tickets from April to Feb end and she says she will come back again. I understand the obligations she has and my poor sister who is alone with dad etc, but it seems like this is the ONLY time I would need their help and they are unable to give it to me wholeheartedly. My DH NEVER quarrels with me or shouts or upsets me since I have been pregnant coz I tend to get headaches and today mom and I got into a heated argument about this issue and I am feeling so emotionally drained. Please let me know what you all think about this...(even if you feel that I am a big selfish person)- I don't want to be that way.