Mother And Mother-in-law

jayasala42 · May 30, 2018

satchitananda said: ↑

Anything rammed down the throat leads to resistance and resentment. Trying to tell women, your mil is like your mother (no she is not, she is not even vaguely like her) and you must love, respect her and look after her will make her resent the mil. A mil, to start with, is nothing more than yet another elderly lady and the husband's mother. Full stop. If they are allowed to just bond from a distance, while living separately, and if she treats her dil like she would treat any other strange woman her age, without trying to order her about, to remould her to 'fit into our house' or overwhelm her, it is more likely that a good relationship might develop and they might feel more 'like' mother and daughter.
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That is what is being practised now.In many houses it is just a hello hello relationship.Even that relationship many do not want to have.they want a complete full stop.
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satchitananda · May 30, 2018

Well, one would expect that anybody with normal human feelings would bond over time, but if it is not happening, then there might be other dimensions too. We don't know where or with whom the problem lies. For ex. Does the man in the equation make equal efforts to bond emotionally to his pil or is it a one way street? So many complexities in marriages.

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