Money Matters And Owning A House

I am confused. Please help!

We are planning to buy a house abroad (where we live), and my husband insists on buying it only on his name. We both are working but since I have a temporary contract, I cannot buy a house in this country (as per the rules). I asked him to include my name as well in the house but he says if he does that, then we won't be able to buy another property here as the bank gives loan only for one property per person. So basically, he wants to buy this one on his name and in future when I have a permanent job, we can buy another one on my name.
My question is, what if we decide (in future) not to buy another house, then I am left with nothing!

He has an NRE account in his hometown which is not joint and he sends almost all his money to the account. Whereas here : we have one joint account (with a savings account attached) and my personal account, so I transfer 3/4th of my salary every month to that joint account where we have our joint savings and he also transfers to savings after paying rent, utilities etc.

I asked him a number of times to include my name in his NRE in India but he says he will do after we have a baby. I don't understand what this means! I never based my decisions on our future baby. So this makes me mad.

Also since his parents (living in India) are dependent on him for everything, he says he is responsible for them and he knows I don't care about them and hence he is scared to put my name in his account. I don't really get all this. For me, we married each other and I will/can do anything for him and our kids but not his parents.
(Its a different story how racist his parents are since I am a north indian and he is from south. The place where they are from is also male dominated and makes me very uncomfortable when I visit them.)

I don't feel like we are really together unless he shares everything with me. And everything means everything.

I am really confused why he is so insecure when it comes to his money n parents but expects me to trust him on everything!
How does it work for you people? I really want to discuss this with someone and know how all this works or if this is normal?

 

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If someone doesn't like or accept me as I am, how can i like them?

So you get married to take care of ur in laws?

 

Thanks. But I did not ask him to share the expenses he spends on them. And I did not tell him outright that I don't care for them, that's what he feels (and husbands always feel that unless you really do A LOT for his parents).

He has a huge saving in his NRE account. I was just looking for suggestions or may be experiences on how you guys share finances/properties.

 

Dear Beautifullife30, I think you did not really read my post. I transfer 75% of my income in our joint account and at the end of the year he transfers almost all his savings to his peronal NRE. So in this case, my savings are our savings saved in our joint account but his savings are his savings saved in his NRE.

And as far as taking care of in-laws is concerned, he doesn't speak to my Dad and only speaks to my Mom when she calls/asks for or messages him. I never made all this an issue, because I understand that the relationship between us is the most important since it was love marriage. We can never make our parents come on the same page. But this thing should apply to him as well. They are also his in-laws as his parents are mine. Why all the expectations are from a woman?

 

Hey @seekout thanks for your suggestion. Its just a misbelief that one knows you in and out in love marriages. The reality comes out when you actually start living with each other. Also,he thought I would integrate in his family and start caring for them eventually but that did not happen because of my FIL's behavior as he is a very foul mouthed person who always say bad things about north Indians and thinks men are superior to women. Not only does he (my FIL) think so but also tells me everytime I am there.