so, Now we are at a stage where we cant be 'friendly' with our Inlaws anymore for what they did to us in the past while keeping in mind that you are not at loss if u lose such relationships. ofcourse they did many sacrifices and put their hard work to bring up their sons, and adored them to the core. but as much they thrashed their DILs for the only reason that she married their son. so, there arised a phase that hubby had to compromise his parents for his better half. But his inevitable desire is to patch things up btwn his wife and his parents in the coming years though he is in good relationship with them though they have ill treated his dear wife. it hurts him sometimes that things turned this way as he sees wife and parents as both of his eyes. so, keeping a hubby's yearning as a primary thing sacrificing your self esteem and peace of mind and knowing that ppl going take big advantage of u and going to thrash u again...what wud u suggest Hubby's eternal happiness or wife's peace of mind. secondly, if chose to fulfil hubby's desire...where to start. gifts to inlaws? a big no. make a call...again no. anythin else?