Dear all, I have been following the website regularly and it is a wonderful place providing strong support, motivation, recommending improvements, providing suggestions on how better we could take care of our relationships. I have absorbed quite a lot from the valuable advices shared here, and these have helped me drastically in improving myself. It would be really helpful if you could provide me with valuable suggestions for the current problem I face. I am married for around 9 years, and blessed with a beautiful daughter who is 6. Me and DH work in IT, lead quite a good quality life. We do have our own share of tiffs which get extremely bad with strong motivation from his mom, brother and sister. The spouse has been away (in the US) for almost 6 months now. As per the initial plan, he was to be there until end of April. However, the company might extend his stay there for few more months (maybe until August/ September) and I am feeling very sad after hearing that. I was longing to be with him already and was eagerly looking forward to April, and am so depressed with the current decision to stay on till August. I do not understand why am feeling so low, though. To give you a brief account of how life is; we talk to each other at least a couple of times every day (more during weekends) and he talks to little one once a day. We get to see each other over Skype thrice or four times every weekend. We involve the little one also in the conversation and also enjoy private intimate chat, viewing each other. But, physical proximity matters a lot to me. It is leading me to depression once in a while and I feel frustrated. I talked about this depression to him as soon as he told me that he might have to extend his stay until August. He says, he is not enjoying life there and is completely bored of cooking, cleaning washing etc on his own. Still, I need to put up as we ought to finish off at least a part of our home and car loans before he returns and I need to keep that in mind before I get frustrated like this. He has been sending us good presents through friends who visit from US (he sent dresses, caps, silver jewelry, good handbags, iPad and all that) and was telling earlier that we could visit him for a month or so (as much as my leave from office allows me) in April/ May ( when the little one has her holidays from school.). But, after this August decision came up, he says we could visit him in Aug, when the weather is better and we have good money to go around and see places. But, I don’t think I can wait until then to see him. Am I thinking weird? I have suggested that we go and be with him as planned (during April or May) and then he could continue his stay there until August or September. That we both I would not feel too deprived. The lil one also wants to visit him as it’s a while since we went on trips. Currently, his visa has been given for extension and we would be able to process our visas only after he receives his extension. I would really appreciate if you could provide me with suggestions on how to change myself and make myself accommodative. Do all of you feel the same? Have you felt this way before and how have you taken care of this? Also, please tell me if April/ May are bad months (weather) to visit US; he is in Missouri? When I nag him more, he starts getting irritated and tells that I can leave my job and join him if I am that desperate. But, that is not a good option for us, because, I do not want to disturb the LO, she is in a good school and is going good in studies and other activities. And, I do not want to leave my job at any cost as I am in a lead position and earning good too. Please help. Thanks!