Hi everyone, It is about North Indian family.. I m married from past 7 years. My husband is only son of my inlaws after have five daughters and one daughter is also there after my husband. So all total my dh have 6 sisters. Past story is so horrible that i don't want to remember but i have to tell you to give clear picture. 1. My inlaws wanted a son so bad that they give birth to 5 daughter every 2 years. My MIL even ate some medicine to terminate her pregnancy while she was carrying my dh thinking she must be a carrying a baby girl. 2. After my dh they again tried for baby thinking they will get another son but mil got another girl after my dh. 3. They even tried to exchange my SIL for a baby boy but my dh's uncle (Mama) stopped them. 4. Women are nothing in my PIL point of view. Specially my FIL. He keep on saying that girls are silver and boys are gold. He even say this in front of my 6 years old daughter. I have 2 year old son too. He always praises him and keep on scolding my daughter. 5. When there was 28 days left to my due date at my daughters time they planned for shight seeing. That morning i told them i was having intense pain and i said can't go still they took me for sight seeing. When pain was not tolerable in vechile on the way me n hubby said will go to hospital they drop us on the road and continued their journey. They didn't even bothered to drop u to hospital or come somebody along with us coz me n dh both were unexperienced. There are many other incident but let it be. the main two issues i have right now are : 1. My PIL has suddenly became "DHARMATMA". Every year MIL do fasting on two occasion. "CHAT" - three days fast and "JITIYA" - this is for her son. apparently this jitiya festival is also gender baise. She dont do daily pooja or offerring also they hate visiting temple. She dont fast on teej or karvachauth but give lecture to me that husband is god but she use offensive word for my FIL. FIL is like a puppet. They watch Astrology prediction program in one news channel every morning and tell us to do whatever they say. 1. Like planting banana tree (dh have transferable job. we have to sift every 3 years. sometime even in 9 10 months) 2. Cannot make kichdi on sunday, tuesday and thursday. cannot cut nails hair or shaving ( for men) on saturday tuesday and thursday. cannot do head bath on thursday saturday and tuesday. cannot eat non veg on saturday thursday and tuesday. parent who have only one son cant do shaving or hair cut nailcut on mondays. 3. Should do daily pooja like tv serial bahu in any circumstances. Cant be busy with 2 year old. 4. When my dh had som problem with his job and had hardtime and was thinking to quit they got so so pannicked they went to very pandit for remedy. They went to 4 5 pandit but they didn't like to belive one and follow him. Instead they chose to follow remad of all pandit. My husband couldn't say no and doing remady eveyday. Now you will all say why you are tolerating? why u people cant say no an the reply is One month back my 2 year old was hospitalized. He was having vommiting and diehrea . He was completly dehydrated. First day i took him hospital with my MIL. Doctor ask me to admit him but my mil was not ready. Instead she suggest me to try on medicine and ORS first. I said ok. we came home. Medicine worked on vomiting but not for diehrea. Next day evening my son started crying and crying.Nothing worked. I was not sure what to do. My husband come home usually around 8 PM. His phone was also switched off. Atlast he came home at 9 and we took him to the hospital. When we were leaving to hospital that time also she was telling us to not admit him in hospital but doctor told us to admit him. we stayed in hospital for 3 nights. Finally we came home at 10 PM and at the very time my daughter was not feeling like having anything. Suddenly she was in fever i ask her to have a glass of milk and peracetamol. But while having medine she vomited. My husband got.panicked seeing this and he picked up fight with me. I was so hurt that he piked up fight in this situation. I also got angry with him. My MIL came between our fight and started taking my dh side. The few things they told was so hurtful. They told that i shouldn't have keep my husband with me in hospital. I should have managed all alone. Was that even possible with 2 yearl old hyperactive toodler with drips needle in his hand? They said that we should have given nurse extra few rupees for that and let my husband sleep in home peacefully. They said it is ok that husband gets angry. wife is the one who should keep mum and even have to tolerate if he hits me(by god grace my dh is not that kind of man). My husband is at work all day and i am the one who help tgem when they are ill. i take them to the hospital. I buy them medicine. i am the one who feed them and take care of them like a baby. They need to feed all day long and MIL need back massage 3 times a day but when i say that during fight she said u must do me massage like i am her maid. She said that u r not only one who do this. i will go home and there my another DIL( DH cousin brother wife) will do it or i will keep somebody to do it. it hurt me so much. we had a huge fight. she called all SILs. she lied and bad mouth about me. She went to SIL house. She told SIL that i make my husband work so much that my husband is not going to live long life.. In anger they booked their hometown ticket but still we bring them our home. I asked my FIL to not to go now and go at their usual plan but still they went. Now my MIL is hospitalized. Doctor is saying depression and not to give any stress. She is bit serious according to SIL. one of my SIL called my dh and said to me indrectly now she will die be happy. What did i do wrong. Cant i rise voice for myself? cant i say no to anything? i am not sure how i am feeling right now. mixture of guilty, scared, disappointment, stressed and what not. sorry for long post plz suggest me what to do. if someting happens to her everybody will blame me.